Jul 23, 2010 - 3:59 am
My name is Tina.My husband was given the news on his 38th birthday that he had squermous cell head and neck cancer, stage four .They treated him with cisplatin chemo every friday for six weeks and with 30min of radiation every day for six weeks.He was put in the hospital several times during treatment and ended up with a pic line and a feeding tube, I was not sure he would make it through the treatments.He lost a hundred and twenty pounds and became addicted to the narcotics. That was two years ago. About eight months ago he began complaining about pain behind his eye but would not go to the Dr.until the pain became unbearable.We got the news on my daughters ninth birthday that the cancer is active and in several areas of his head,including his skull base and the center part of his brain, his left jaw,his left eye, his entire sinus and some marrow infiltration was detected. My husband refuses to go through treatments again. He has put his trust in God and says that he will either live with the cancer or he would die with the cancer but it was all in Gods hands. I don't know what to do... We have a nine year old daughter and very little life insurance. I don't know what will happen. will he have a seizure or a stroke? will he live a few years or a few months? What do I need to look for? I try so hard to stay positive. We never talk about his cancer.He won't discuss it with anyone including me. His mother and father have no idea and he will not let me tell them.So, I have this terrible news that I can't talk to anyone about. He gets up every morning and goes to work. He acts like it is not real...Can someone please give me some tips on what I should be expecting, what I should be looking for?