Just diagnosed with Breast Cancer...Going Crazy...lol

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sohardbnme
sohardbnme Member Posts: 129
edited March 2014 in Breast Cancer #1
I am 37 years old and no one in my family has a history of cancer… I went for a routine GYN examination and my GYN found a lump May 24th... June 2nd I had breast ultra sound and mammogram…
It ended up being two clusters of micro calcification in my left breast… My stereotypical biopsy result that I received Monday stated that one cluster was pre- cancerous and the second cluster is stage one or two cancer… I am scheduled for a lumpectomy next Wednesday. I went through two days of shock… Look, this is too much to deal with uuuggghhh… radiation, chemo uuuggghhh… Is this real…I am lost…am I on this site, because I have cancer…This is teary eyed, a lot to take in…
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  • Sally5
    Sally5 Member Posts: 87
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    Welcome
    sohardbnme,

    So sorry about your news. I know how you feel. I was on shock for two days. It is a big deal. Go ahead and feel whatever you want.

    This is the best site. Jump in and many great people will share your pain and answer your questions. I am 7 weeks out of surgery but I only found this site 5 days ago. It has helped me get my sanity back.

    Sorry your need this site. Welcome. We all can relate.
  • sunny_girl
    sunny_girl Member Posts: 33
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    Hard thing to hear
    So sorry to read of your diagnosis. I was just a little older than you when I was diagnosed - and frankly it is just too young. It really is a lot to take in all at once. Here are my thoughts - more practical than anything. Hope this is useful to you.

    There are a few things you may want to consider doing Monday. First, be sure that your surgeon is an oncological surgeon who specializes in breast cancer and has removed a lot of sentinal nodes. You want that procedure to minimize the number of lymph nodes removed. That reduces lymphedema risk and you need those nodes.

    The next thing to ask about is getting a breast MRI if you haven't already had one. It really helps your surgeon visualize the area of your cancer to ensure clear margins (and helps avoid a second lumpectomy 2 weeks later). The MRI can also catch cancer in the other breast or other areas of that breast. I also had two adjacent clusters of microcalcs in the left breast, one DCIS and the other IDC. Turned out for me that they were just one large cancer all IDC - and it showed on the MRI. Most likely you've had that cancer for quite a long time, so a delay of a week or two won't effect your outcome. But not having clear margins can effect your outcome.

    Another thing to ask about is genetic testing for BRCA 1 & 2 mutations - only because of your age. If there is any history of ovarian cancer in your family it would be good to know to decide which surgery(ies) to have. Your surgeon should be able to refer you to a genetics councelor to find out if it makes sense to be tested (it may not). It is expensive and usually not covered by insurance.

    Finally, you may want to ask your surgeon about getting an oncotype dx test ordered with a piece of the tumor (after the lumpectomy) to help with your decision about chemo. Your pathology should give some idea about the grade of your cancer, which also gives an idea if chemo is necessary. This test is expensive and new-ish, so checking with your insurer may also be a good idea. It takes a few weeks to get the results, and your oncologist should be open to the discussion of not taking chemo if that test has a low score. The waiting is really the worst part of the process (the lumpectomy shouldn't be too bad). So if the sooner they order tests, the sooner you get the results back.

    You shouldn't need an oncologist until after the pathology report comes back from the lumpectomy. But you may need to have find one sooner to get the Oncotype test ordered if your surgeon declines (the results are about chemo, not surgery).

    One last thing is to ask to have your vitamin D levels checked. There is some evidence low levels of vitamin d are associated with breast cancer. Good to get on a good suppliment if you are low.

    Best of luck to you - and please come back to ask any questions that may come up.
  • aysemari
    aysemari Member Posts: 1,596 Member
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    Welcome (Teary eyed.. too)
    Sorry we have meet this way. But I am glad you are here. I remember my first month after
    my diagnosis,it was incredibly hard to take in the reality of it and all the medical jargon
    flying my way.

    My best advice to you is, slow down, breathe and educate yourself. It helps with the fear.
    You will now be immersed in a new world, and you will be amazed how many of us are
    already here welcoming you.

    I am also only in my thirties like you. I too had a lumpectomy then chemo. But now I
    opted to have a mastectomy instead of radiaton.

    This year will rock your world, whatever you do be very gentle to yourself and understand
    this is a life changing time for you. Try to find an outlet, for me it was walking.

    Ayse
  • zivagirl
    zivagirl Member Posts: 19
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    Hard thing to hear
    So sorry to read of your diagnosis. I was just a little older than you when I was diagnosed - and frankly it is just too young. It really is a lot to take in all at once. Here are my thoughts - more practical than anything. Hope this is useful to you.

    There are a few things you may want to consider doing Monday. First, be sure that your surgeon is an oncological surgeon who specializes in breast cancer and has removed a lot of sentinal nodes. You want that procedure to minimize the number of lymph nodes removed. That reduces lymphedema risk and you need those nodes.

    The next thing to ask about is getting a breast MRI if you haven't already had one. It really helps your surgeon visualize the area of your cancer to ensure clear margins (and helps avoid a second lumpectomy 2 weeks later). The MRI can also catch cancer in the other breast or other areas of that breast. I also had two adjacent clusters of microcalcs in the left breast, one DCIS and the other IDC. Turned out for me that they were just one large cancer all IDC - and it showed on the MRI. Most likely you've had that cancer for quite a long time, so a delay of a week or two won't effect your outcome. But not having clear margins can effect your outcome.

    Another thing to ask about is genetic testing for BRCA 1 & 2 mutations - only because of your age. If there is any history of ovarian cancer in your family it would be good to know to decide which surgery(ies) to have. Your surgeon should be able to refer you to a genetics councelor to find out if it makes sense to be tested (it may not). It is expensive and usually not covered by insurance.

    Finally, you may want to ask your surgeon about getting an oncotype dx test ordered with a piece of the tumor (after the lumpectomy) to help with your decision about chemo. Your pathology should give some idea about the grade of your cancer, which also gives an idea if chemo is necessary. This test is expensive and new-ish, so checking with your insurer may also be a good idea. It takes a few weeks to get the results, and your oncologist should be open to the discussion of not taking chemo if that test has a low score. The waiting is really the worst part of the process (the lumpectomy shouldn't be too bad). So if the sooner they order tests, the sooner you get the results back.

    You shouldn't need an oncologist until after the pathology report comes back from the lumpectomy. But you may need to have find one sooner to get the Oncotype test ordered if your surgeon declines (the results are about chemo, not surgery).

    One last thing is to ask to have your vitamin D levels checked. There is some evidence low levels of vitamin d are associated with breast cancer. Good to get on a good suppliment if you are low.

    Best of luck to you - and please come back to ask any questions that may come up.

    Sunny Girl
    Awesome informantion and will certainly be a tremendouse help to me when I meet my University of Chicago breast surgeon this Tuesday. Just dx'd w/DCIS - comedo type - less than 5% volume. They are arranging MRI for hopefully same day.

    Thanks again for your wealth of information - this is what makes everyone here an AMAZING group!
  • faith_trust_and_a_little_bit_of_chemotherapy
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    Dear so hard...
    You have had a lot to take in...all the blood in your body rushes to your head, at least it did for me, when the doctor said the "C" word. You do know that you have caring professionals that kept nudging you to the next step. Biopsy, mammogram, and now surgery...I won't lie, chemotherapy can be rough and I will soon find out about radiation. The doctors, nurses, and even technicians that have cared for me thus far have not treated me as a chart or some set of numbers. I have thanked each one as I have journeyed this road.

    When I was diagnosed my mind went immediately to the worse case scenario, I couldn't sleep as my mind raced with all I needed to do...I couldn't even just sit and relax...in hindsight I think that's pretty normal.

    Try to be gracious with yourself and go ahead and indulge in some heart felt sorrow. As I am finding out there is more of us out there than I was aware of 6 months ago. You'll see a warm smile in the market from a woman or man that knows how hard your day is.

    Your journey is starting, as one friend reminded me...breathe. Too, remember...there is life after cancer.
  • Skeezie
    Skeezie Member Posts: 586 Member
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    Dear so hard...
    You have had a lot to take in...all the blood in your body rushes to your head, at least it did for me, when the doctor said the "C" word. You do know that you have caring professionals that kept nudging you to the next step. Biopsy, mammogram, and now surgery...I won't lie, chemotherapy can be rough and I will soon find out about radiation. The doctors, nurses, and even technicians that have cared for me thus far have not treated me as a chart or some set of numbers. I have thanked each one as I have journeyed this road.

    When I was diagnosed my mind went immediately to the worse case scenario, I couldn't sleep as my mind raced with all I needed to do...I couldn't even just sit and relax...in hindsight I think that's pretty normal.

    Try to be gracious with yourself and go ahead and indulge in some heart felt sorrow. As I am finding out there is more of us out there than I was aware of 6 months ago. You'll see a warm smile in the market from a woman or man that knows how hard your day is.

    Your journey is starting, as one friend reminded me...breathe. Too, remember...there is life after cancer.

    Yes, this is very hard and it's
    just as scary whether you're 37 or 67. You're job now is to educate yourself on bc. Google is great, my fav is Mayo Clinic websites because they are precise and give all info on what needs to be done and how it is done. You need to have this info before you speak with your surgeon so you know what he/she is saying etc. Yes, you really do need a surgeon who is a breast surgeon.

    As to the Oncotype testing that is only for hormone fed cancers, if you are a triple neg. you will not need the test, so you will get your staging and type of cancer after you're biopsy/lumpectomy. I am triple neg and it's not the end of the world as so many think it is. It's all about education.

    It's pretty hard to be gentle with yourself right now because you are terrified and you're mind is just racing and your thoughts can't help but be negative. I took Ativan (anti-aniexty) from the day I found the lump til after treatment was completed. Twice daily, sometimes three depending on my level of "scared". It kept me grounded so I could think in the day and sleep at nite.

    If you have to have chemo (and we don't know that yet) we will all tell you it's doable. It's a word that terrorizes everyone at first so you are having normal feelings. Just take one step at a time, educate yourself and come here for info, advice and understanding.

    Please let us know how your lumpectomy goes...

    Hugs, Judy :-)
  • greyhoundluvr
    greyhoundluvr Member Posts: 402
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    Sohardbnme
    I am so sorry that you are going through this - welcome to a site where everyone understands exactly what you are going through. You have gotten some really good information here probably the only suggestion I would be to see an oncologist before your surgery. I know that this often not done until after surgery but I found it so valuable. After they do your initial biopsy, there will usually be a second level report that comes in a day or two later that tells them the hormone status of the biopsy tissue, preliminary grading, etc. While some of this can change after they remove they whole tumor, the initial biopsy is usually accurate as far as defining the type of cancer. An oncologist can explain this to you, give you suggestions as to surgical options and help you have a better understanding as to what you are dealing with. They were so great at educating me that it made all of the decisions a lot easier for me. Best wishes - we are here for you any time.

    Chris
  • slynch
    slynch Member Posts: 82
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    Sorry
    Sorry for your reason for being here but you will learn a lot of valuable information from people who have experienced it. I have found that no question is stupid and everyone will try to give you the facts and comfort you.
  • jo jo
    jo jo Member Posts: 1,175
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    Sohardbnme sorry you have to
    Sohardbnme sorry you have to be here but we all share the same disease just different methods of treatments so we all understand exactly how you feel...its an emoitional rollercoaster but youll get thru it one step at a time!!
  • sohardbnme
    sohardbnme Member Posts: 129
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    jo jo said:

    Sohardbnme sorry you have to
    Sohardbnme sorry you have to be here but we all share the same disease just different methods of treatments so we all understand exactly how you feel...its an emoitional rollercoaster but youll get thru it one step at a time!!

    wow
    I have alot to say, yet I am unable to write it down at this second...all I can is wow...Thank You...
  • sohardbnme
    sohardbnme Member Posts: 129
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    Skeezie said:

    Yes, this is very hard and it's
    just as scary whether you're 37 or 67. You're job now is to educate yourself on bc. Google is great, my fav is Mayo Clinic websites because they are precise and give all info on what needs to be done and how it is done. You need to have this info before you speak with your surgeon so you know what he/she is saying etc. Yes, you really do need a surgeon who is a breast surgeon.

    As to the Oncotype testing that is only for hormone fed cancers, if you are a triple neg. you will not need the test, so you will get your staging and type of cancer after you're biopsy/lumpectomy. I am triple neg and it's not the end of the world as so many think it is. It's all about education.

    It's pretty hard to be gentle with yourself right now because you are terrified and you're mind is just racing and your thoughts can't help but be negative. I took Ativan (anti-aniexty) from the day I found the lump til after treatment was completed. Twice daily, sometimes three depending on my level of "scared". It kept me grounded so I could think in the day and sleep at nite.

    If you have to have chemo (and we don't know that yet) we will all tell you it's doable. It's a word that terrorizes everyone at first so you are having normal feelings. Just take one step at a time, educate yourself and come here for info, advice and understanding.

    Please let us know how your lumpectomy goes...

    Hugs, Judy :-)

    I need a hug
    Thank You...
  • sohardbnme
    sohardbnme Member Posts: 129
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    Dear so hard...
    You have had a lot to take in...all the blood in your body rushes to your head, at least it did for me, when the doctor said the "C" word. You do know that you have caring professionals that kept nudging you to the next step. Biopsy, mammogram, and now surgery...I won't lie, chemotherapy can be rough and I will soon find out about radiation. The doctors, nurses, and even technicians that have cared for me thus far have not treated me as a chart or some set of numbers. I have thanked each one as I have journeyed this road.

    When I was diagnosed my mind went immediately to the worse case scenario, I couldn't sleep as my mind raced with all I needed to do...I couldn't even just sit and relax...in hindsight I think that's pretty normal.

    Try to be gracious with yourself and go ahead and indulge in some heart felt sorrow. As I am finding out there is more of us out there than I was aware of 6 months ago. You'll see a warm smile in the market from a woman or man that knows how hard your day is.

    Your journey is starting, as one friend reminded me...breathe. Too, remember...there is life after cancer.

    wow
    All I can say wow...This is...
  • Katz77
    Katz77 Member Posts: 598
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    : )
    IT WILL BE OK!!!! We have all been down this road. Sorry you're o it to, but we are fun to travel with. Lots of info, lots of good questions asked. Support is overwhelming, as is care and concern. Emotional, spiritual, and mental help 24/7.Theres even a few husbands on here if you have a "guy" question.
    My name is Gayla and I (we) welcome you. Remember to breath. ; )
  • sbmly53
    sbmly53 Member Posts: 1,522
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    I'm so sorry to meet you under these circumstances,
    however, I am right there with you. I know how you feel - the disbelief and shock, the waiting. I had a lumpectomy due to calcifications. Keep posting, let us know how you are.

    Sue
  • cahjah75
    cahjah75 Member Posts: 2,631
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    I too am a newbie
    I too am a newbie. There are wonderful women & some hubbies on this site with a wealth of info to help us in our journey w/bc. I hope you visit often and ask lots of questions. I was dx May 21 and had BLM on June 22. I'm sore mostly from the drain sites but all in all felt well prepared from reading so many topics. You are not alone...... My surgeon told me 1 in 8 or 12% of the population will have bc. However, you are young and this must be devastating with no prior family history. I'm 61 and the 5th in my family w/bc. Remember, we are pink warriors and will be Breast Cancer Survivors!
    Char
  • sea60
    sea60 Member Posts: 2,613
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    We're all here for you
    To share stories, faith, information, support, understanding, funny stories, love, hope and care.

    Blessings and peace to you...

    Sylvia
  • smalldoggroomer
    smalldoggroomer Member Posts: 1,184
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    Welcome
    I'm sorry to meet you like this glad you are here with us on this forum. I to am a newbie dx may 7th this year I still have to have Chemo start that the 29th and then surgery then radiation, I have learned so much here. You will too. You can ask ANYTHING here. We all understand the emotions, frustration, stress it causes. We will be with you the hole way through your journey. Take care Kay
  • natly15
    natly15 Member Posts: 1,941
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    Glad you found us. There is
    Glad you found us. There is so much knowledge and support here. I truly understand and still ask myself did this really happen to me, am I really getting cancer treatment, and the list goes on.

    Yes I'm here because I had a stage 2 breast cancer diagnosis and I was so lucky it was found when it was found because as small as it was , it was moving very rapidly.

    My doctors and nurses couldn't have been kinder. Anyone in the medical profession who knew what I was going thru treated me with such compassion. I never knew how compassionate and understanding those medical people could be. It was a year on June 17 that I had my biopsy. What followed was 2 surgeries, a terrible infection at the surgical site, months of anitbiotics, 8 rounds of chemo and 6 1/2 weeks of rads. I finished treatment on June 15 and am here to tell you that this walk can be grueling at times, but we get thru it and we are not alone. We are strong warriors and true survivors. The support I received on these boards coupled with all the prayers carried me when I couldn't walk or pray. This is a wonderful place to visit when we have the not so wonderful diagnosis. This is no walk in the park, but we can, we will, and we do whatever it takes to beat the beast.
  • Double Whammy
    Double Whammy Member Posts: 2,832 Member
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    You're not going crazy
    Welcome, Sohardbnme. I'm also relatively new to this group, too, but I have to say I have learned so much and that information has helped put my mind at rest - well, at least a little, I still obsess and research on a daily basis! This group of women (and husbands)understands and that is what no one who has not gone through this can provide. I've found all the health care professionals I've dealt with so far to be warm and caring, too. We (survivors) and cancer health care providers are so helpful to each other in times like this. Once we receive the diagnosis, our lives will never be the same, but that's not necessarily a bad thing. Keep connected with this group. There's always someone who will "listen".
    Suzanne
  • sohardbnme
    sohardbnme Member Posts: 129
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    cahjah75 said:

    I too am a newbie
    I too am a newbie. There are wonderful women & some hubbies on this site with a wealth of info to help us in our journey w/bc. I hope you visit often and ask lots of questions. I was dx May 21 and had BLM on June 22. I'm sore mostly from the drain sites but all in all felt well prepared from reading so many topics. You are not alone...... My surgeon told me 1 in 8 or 12% of the population will have bc. However, you are young and this must be devastating with no prior family history. I'm 61 and the 5th in my family w/bc. Remember, we are pink warriors and will be Breast Cancer Survivors!
    Char

    This is...
    I am taking it all in...I need support...I have minimum family support...