Jun 09, 2010 - 9:53 am
Yesterday, my brother Paul told me he has been diagnosed with tongue and neck cancer. The cancer is on the back of his tongue and he has one large lump plus 3 smaller lumps on his neck which is also malignant. He has, over the past 3 months, lost 30 pounds so when he told me that, I knew that the possibilities of it being cancer was real but still to receive the information is quite upsetting. Last night, I cried myself to sleep and today, I want that behind me so I can be strong and supportive for him.
I live in Florida and he in Missouri. I will be leaving Sunday to stay with him as long as it takes for him to beat this horrible disease. I must say this network has already helped me to understand more of what he will be going through. Actually, this web site is like a wealth of knowledge and a gift to those who face this tough road. However, I do still have some questions and would appreciate it if someone would share their information.
The doctor stated he must see a dentist prior to having any radiation treatment as the radiation will kill any teeth that are not perfect. I have read else where that the treatments really kill the jawbone and that is the real reason most or all the teeth must be extracted. Perhaps I have not read the right discussions but is this the first step? Also he is just having radiation not chemo. I would think he would need both. He was informed that the radiation will anger the cancer...what does that mean? The doctor also told him before treatments to try and gain back as much weight as possible. I certainly understand that but the doctor urged him to eat lots of beef and fish. Is there anything else he should be eating which will help his weight gain? He will be having a feeding tube and after reading the discussions, he should be doing this before his treatments begin. Will the doctor advise what nutrition he should have on a daily basis? If not, where should I go to find out? Paul said, he could lose part of his tongue. Are the operations performed before, during or after the radiation? And, last but I am sure I will think of more later, he was told he has a 50/50 chance. Please tell me that is good enough to beat this.
Thanks so much for your help.