Cancer Survivors Network

You are going to do what you did the first time around. You will care for him as best you can, grieve when he is gone, and some how, some way, you will survive. I am so sorry you are going through this twice. Once is hard enough. Some how, though, we do find our way. Take care, Fay

Wow is the first thing that comes to my mind then the next is talk with him and let him know how you feel. If you have to talk about plans that he wants to do. I just talked to a friend of mine that just lost her husband two months before I did and she said she tried to be so brave for her husband and didn't talk with him about him dying and the plans for after and she really regreted that. I sat with my husband and talked with him two days before he died and it was one of the best talks we had. He told me that he loved me so very much and how he was so lucky to have a wife that has helped him through each part of this terrible disease and how he wished he would have been a better husband. This talk really has helped me now after he is gone. I was able to tell him how much I loved him and have loved the life we had and that I would do it over again in a heart beat. I can't imagine going through this twice wow. Just keep in mind your husband needs you and needs you to be strong. If you feel like screaming then go in your room and scream in a pillow so it doesn't upset him. I will keep you in my prayers. Haley