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A Quote for Caregivers

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AnnaLeigh
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Caregiving is calling each other into life isn't it?

That's the fundamental goal of caregiving: To enable another person to want to BE in the world.

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AnnaLeigh
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Why do we provide care for the ill, the sick, the old, and the frail?

We do it because we can see their human spirit which is still pure, still complete, and still beautiful.

And when we commit ourselves to the work of caring for that person, we honor the true essence of that human being.

**Dr. William H. Thomas, Caregiving Advocate**

SamsWife
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Hi AnnaLeigh ~

I love your posts. I would like to offer a little different spin on the above quote ~ the quote is true but in my situation it was a little different. My husband passed in March ~ he wasn't a very good guy honestly ~ but what I would like to say regarding caregiving is this: even though he really didn't show us much as his family, we (my kids and I) did the right thing by trying our very best to love and care for him. Some people that are close to us have marvelled at this because my husband wasn't a good person. However, he was still a person and we wanted to care for him ~ he was suffering and my kids and I are at peace knowing that we have no regrets ~ we did right by him and we can feel good about ourselves. We offered our love and care and sometimes that's a hard pill to swallow ~ that we worked so hard for him and he didn't value any of it ~ but; we offered ~ he chose not to accept it ~ but we can go on and love each other and offer care again when and if the time comes ~ I feel as if we continued to love in very difficult circumstances: not only cancer (which, as we all know, just absolutely sucks!) but with a man who will always be a mystery to us ~ we'll never understand what made him tick ~ anyway, we're healing and moving forward with good feelings about how we managed throughout a really, really rough time in our lives.

Sorry for running on about this but your quote caused me to reflect a bit on our situation. I guess whether we feel the person suffering is deserving or not, they're still human and need love and care ~ it gives us all an opportunity to show our goodness and humanity.

Thanks ~ Tina

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AnnaLeigh
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Tina,

You are truly a role model to show all of us, and remind us, to give care for each other no matter the difficult circumstances.

There is a spirit down inside every human being that may sometimes be hidden by the awful, painful, actions they do on the outside. But you are obviously able to see past the outer covering and look deeply enough to recognize the trait we all share. We are all spirits sharing a human existence and an earthly journey.

Your strength and courage will offer your children a wonderful view of life they could not have received any other way.

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AnnaLeigh
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Anyone can carry their burden, however hard, until nightfall.

Anyone can do their work, however hard, for one day.

Anyone can live sweetly, patiently, lovingly, purely, till the sun goes down.

And this is all life really means.

**R. L. Stevenson**

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By embracing mortality, we gain humility, tolerance, harmony, and peace - and the power to transform our lives.

It teaches us patience, enlightens us with perspective, and blesses us with wisdom.

**Rabbi Ben Kamin, The Path of the Soul: Making Peace with Mortality

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