I'm the caregiver to my wife who was diagnosed with stage IV cancer (they don't know the primary) in Oct. She was doing really well until recently when we found out the cancer had spread. After a 2 week hospital stay due to complications from ascites and pneumonia we've been back home a week. She's hanging in there but having a tough time keeping calories up and keeping active due to the fluid in her abdomen. It sucks. Tomorrow she's finally going to get back to chemo but I think it's going to be rough--she's not at her strongest right now and she'll be taking taxotere, albeit a low dose. Anyway, just looking to connect with other lesbian caregivers or survivors trying to maintain hope in the face of almost overwhelming adversity.