Apr 17, 2010 - 3:38 pm
Hi. My dad was diagnosis with tongue cancer stage three and is metastic down to the neck. My father went through chemo and radiation. His last radiation treatment was Feb 15. 2010. The Dr believed that the treatment actually worked. Unfortunately, two month later, they discover a new firm mass in the same location. I asked the doctor what other option he has, his reponse was surgery is the only choice. My concern is that the surgery is very difficult and aggressive. Plus my dad has dementia and he is mildly depressed. The doctor explain that they must remove his tongue, tonsil, and the vocal cord. The will open a hole in the neck and b fed by a g tube. The other choice is let nature take it course. I was overwhelmed and hurt. I went my dad and asked him what does he want me to do. His answer was leave me alone, I ready lived my life and I decided to live in a mess up way. He wants me to sign a DNR paper. I am not ready and can't do it. I feel I have to pull a trigger and my conscious doesn't let me go through with it. Why a daughter has to b put in a horrible decision making?? Has anyone felt like my dad?