Apr 02, 2010 - 8:53 pm
Hello everyone. I'm new to the site and am looking for some guidance and education if anyone can help. Last week my 55 year old (56 tomorrow April 3rd!) mother was taken to the hospital because she had been experiencing flue-like symptoms and vaginal bleeding. They we first concerned about her kidneys because she was in renal failure and her creatinine levels were up around 8 when she was first admitted. They also knew at this time that she had uterine cancer.
They were not able to give her anesthesia to put a stent into her right kidney because she had eaten that day, but they didn't want to wait. They were able to get the stent in with out the anesthesia and they also cleared an infection in her bladder. The next day they attempted the left kidney but were still unable to. Finally on the third day they preformed a kidney block that lasted around an hour and were able to get it to drain. They took several liters of fluid out and today, almost a week later her creatinine levels are down to 2.8. We thought everything was going in the right direction. She had a colonoscopy scheduled for this comming Tuesday, and a total hysterectomy as well as the top portion of her bladdar were to be removed on Thursday.
I live in Florida and the rest of my family live in Northern Pennsylvania so my father has been contacting me and in turn I call the rest of the family for updates. My mom is an incredibly stong, no fuss no nonsense type of woman. She doesn't want visitors and up until today she hadn't talked to me even though under normal circumstances we talk every day if only for a quick minute. I know she wasn't able to talk because it would be too emotional for her and knew she would do it in her own time.
Today, when my dad called to tell my that they had found out it was stage 4 and that they were going to have to take out a lot more of her bladder than expected, I colapsed. I immediatley thought the worst and was cryining uncontrolably the whole drive home from work. Luckily I have an amazing boyfriend who is being very supportive and really helping me to think positively, but I am still having such a hard time. I have never had anyone in my family have cancer and though I've been trying to read up on it online, I am still clueless and am really looking for some hope.
As I said, my mom finally called me today and thank goodness because it was so hard not to hear her voice...I had this awful image of her in the hospital and I just couldn't shake it...until I heard her voice and she was that same tough woman I've always known. She sounded just like her self. She also told me that they're going to be moving from the hospital in Erie to UPMC in Pittsburgh because they have a better oncology department. She told me that she doesn't want me to come up right now or in her words "what are you going to do? Sit in an uncomfortable chair in here telling me how beautiful I look all day? I'd rather have you come up for a weekend after I'm out of here so you can wait on me for a change!" haha. Hearing her really brightened my spirits but I still would like some insight as to anyone else who has gone through, or is going through something similar to my mother.
Thank you and God bless.