Mar 30, 2010 - 6:31 am
My mom has been diagnosed with liver cancer since June 2009. My dad back in 2006 had major surgery which resulted in amputation of part of his right leg and left foot. That being said, he has been relying on my mom to take care of him, because he can't drive or do lots of other things he used to. Now that my mom is more towards the end stage, she has let all of us kids know (I being the first, since I was there when it was discovered...where's my flag? lol) but my sisters and brothers don't want to take the time out to come see her, as most live in other places around the NW country, and 'have their own lives to deal with'. They keep putting her off, saying 'oh i'll come next month' and then changing it again and again, like she's going to just get better. Now, she had chemo done and her doctors told her her body became immune to treatment. Her physical state after all the chemo left her exhausted and unwilling to become a 'guinea pig' for all possible treatments that may be out there. I told her that I understand that she doesn't want to spend her last days on earth constantly fighting for a solution that may/may not work. I respect her decision, even if I don't agree with it. But my siblings seems to think she's just gonna keep living, one even asked for a loan! like it was just another day. Since I'm the youngest of 6, my siblings think I should just let her be and her and my dad just figure stuff out for themselves and I should go on with my own life. Does this seem wrong to anyone else?? She will die, and I will have to consider how my dad will maintain some quality of life without putting him into a 'home' or some such...but none of the others seem to care about this. They call every once and awhile, but that's about it. I have a couple of friends that are supportive, but now I signed up here for some more options and feedback. I love my parents dearly, and feel it's my duty and honor to help them when they most need me.... Am I wrong to feel this way? I'm worried to see my mom in pain or distress, and just as much so to see the rest of my family care so little. Don't they realize that they will have their life to continue after she is gone? Can't they take a little time out now before she's so weak and helpless she can barely know who she's talking to?