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Has Cancer Been ALL Bad For You?

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PhillieG
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This post was started on the Colon Cancer section of the site by me. As of Saturday, Feb 27, at 11:40 pm there were 77 responses. I'm curious what kind of comments I get on this section of the site:

We all either face the effects of cancer or are caregivers to those who do. I think it's safe to say that cancer is not one the the best things that has happened to us.

Have you found something positive that has come out of your cancer diagnosis that you may not have realized if you were not diagnosed with cancer? If so, would you care to share?

I have found that cancer has given me an even greater appreciation for the simpler things in life. The bird chirping, the sunrise/sunset, the way light highlights my wife's face...

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soccerfreaks
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Perhaps rather than 'bad' I should have used the word 'evil', my sweet friend. There is no doubt that cancer sucks (bad) but I would argue that it is not evil (morally bad).

My point was that cancer is not evil but a neutral force in the greater scheme of things and that WE, some of us, make it worse than it has to be.

It is. Like the grass, like the trees, like the deer, like the air, like the sea, like the people: it is.

Take care, C,

Joe

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Well phooey then! If you are going to make perfect sense and give me nothing to take issue with, what's the point?! LOL LOL

I know! I know! May I exchange my cancer(or yours) for the grass??? Now we're talking!

Love ya, Joe!

Hugs,
Chen♥

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soccerfreaks
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You can in Cali :).

Take care my sweet friend,

Joe

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I guess I don't see cancer as 'bad' or 'evil' but rather a natural part of life (probably what you call a neutral force Joe). It has been around for very long time and up until recently there hasn't been an effective way to deal with it. Hence my gratitude for being born today as opposed to hundred or more years ago. Death is also a natural part of life that people don't take on unless they have to.

I would never have willing signed up for cancer nor death nor some other things that happen in life but since it occurred I like to see the flowers springing up in spaces where the bombs are not falling. I dunno seeing a little more of the bigger picture, we can't have life without death. Call somethings good, somethings bad or whatever but as soon as we start labeling it, it affect our experience of it and as you said Joe, makes it worse than it has to be.
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When I was diagnosed with ovarian cancer last year, it felt like a wake up call. My beloved partner had died on July 28, 2006, and I had never got over it. I realized in some ways that I was yearning to join him so badly that I had to make a choice about wanting to live or die. I chose life and had the surgery and chemo. And found that I could love again after three and half years of thinking that I'd be alone the rest of my life. It certainly wasn't an enjoyable lesson to learn, but I feel some good things did come out of it. One was seeing just how much support I had in my community, with folks coming over to clean my house, bring me food and just sit with me and make sure I was ok. I learned the humor of dealing with wigs (I opted for a variety, including a 30" dreadlock wig). And I went for the free stuff that could help, like the "Look Good Feel Better" program where I walked out with over $300 of free cosmetics.

Now, unfortunately the cancer has returned, though it's small and treatable. It's a little harder to figure out the lesson this time around, and I've found myself having a lot more issues with having the re-occurrence, especially since I was so healthy and happy after I finished chemo last year. But it is what it is. I can lay around all day feeling sorry for myself, or I can do my best to take my supplements, do all the alternative practices and treatments I can, while dealing with a monthly Doxil treatment. My spiritual teacher told me "whoever comes to your door, that is your teacher". This one's been a harder teacher to deal with, as I still don't know the outcome. My doctors are optomistic that we caught it so early, and that I have a lot of good years left (I just turned 55). So we will see. Each person has to handle the feelings about their cancer in their own way.

I wish peace, harmony and healing to all of you.

Blessings,

Anna Armaiti

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Thank you so much for your comments on this topic. You have such a a great attitude and had a wonderful response. I can see that is what makes you are such a good writer!
-phil

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soccerfreaks
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What an elegant way of putting it, mariam!

Take care,

Joe

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Cancer is bad but I feel you have to find the good out of everything. My Husband taught me that . yes I hate that I have Cancer and can't believe that it happened to me (neither can the doctors.) But the silver lining is . I found god again, found out how many people I am blessed with. How many people I have in my life praying for me daily. And I also don't take anything for granted. Enjoy everything my kids are doing and saying. My husband and the world around me. I am in Gods hands. Even though sometimes its a dark road I always come out on the bright side. The lord god will hold your right hand , saying to you Fear not, I will Help you. When life gets scary, God is with us, We can hold His strong Hand. you will never walk alone, Jesus will be right beside you all the way. He walks alongside us and holds our hand at the scary Parts. I always keep this in mind....

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Thanks for the chance to think about this subject. I found out I had breast cancer in October 2010. Had a bi-lateral mastectomy and now I'm facing a year of chemo/Herceptin. I know many would disagree with me, but it has not been ALL bad. Cancer stopped my preoccupation with this world and its little problems that seemed so big before. When I heard my diagnosis it was like I had a sheet of paper in front of me with "Important" and "Not Important" columns clearly defined. After I was over the shock, God moved into my life with comfort and care and all sorts of things that were truly necessary for my health and wellbeing. I wouldn't want to have to face cancer without God's love and peace, and thanksfully I don't have to. Will I get better and live? Will I depart this world, and if so, when? Don't know. All I know is that either way I don't have to do it alone. Thanks be to God.

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soccerfreaks
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Welcome to the site and thanks for the insight. I am one of the (few) resident agnostics on this site, I think, but always look forward to fresh voices.

I wish you the best in your survivorship!

Take care,

Joe

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thanksbetoGod
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Thanks Joe! I appreciate your comments and wish you the best as well. It's such a comfort to have companions on this long, strange trip called cancer.

Take care, Beverly

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