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blaming yourself?
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Feb 23, 2010 - 8:04 pm
do you ever find yourself blame yourself for getting testicular cancer? i admit, i sometimes do... (no, not drugs... thank God!) just wanna know that im not alone. |
Joined: Dec 2009
No, you can't blame yourself, man. They don't know what causes it, while there are a few things that seem to increase the likely hood of getting TC, none of them are within your control except for injury & even that is normally accidental. Also even among those potential links, there is no proven cause.
You can't blame yourself for something you have no control over. You need to focus on your treatment & getting cured, that's the important stuff right now.
Don't forget to check this site out for more TC info:
http://tcrc.acor.org/index.html
Dave
Joined: Apr 2002
Testicular cancers are among those malignancies that can't possibly result from anything done by the person afflicted.
Courage and Peace of Mind,
Rick
Joined: Dec 2009
From what I've been told in my case, mine was embryonic / stem cell. Meaning it started in the womb and the ground work foundation was laid from there, it just took 36 years to surface!!
I said to my wife that TC would happen to be the only cancer I could get, I mean, I live a healthy lifestyle, exercise eat right, pray :) This is just one of those that you're pre-programmed to get and there's isn't a damn thing you can do about it! LIVESTRONG
Paul
Joined: Feb 2010
i LiveStrong as well! (:
Joined: Nov 2007
I had TC in 2001 for the first time and saw 2 nutritionists, stating that i had it due to my poor eating habits. I had round 2 of TC in 2006 and was seen by 2 more nutritionist (in a different state) stating the same thing about it being my poor eating habits. I do THANK YOU for your statement that it is not due to eating habits.
Joined: Jun 2009
Like everyone else said, blame has no place here. This was a big issue in my experience. I didn't blame myself. I knew that no matter what I had done before I would never have avoided getting TC. At least that's what I thought to begin with.
Believe it or not, my mother made me question this. Let me say this first, my family including my mother, father, sisters and all of my extended family were so extremely supportive during my experience that they deserve full credit for my success. Now, why did my mother make me question who was to blame? She would very often say that this wasn't fair. Why would I get this horrible disease when there are criminals and bad people or just plain rude and mean people out there? I've always had very good manners and never once wasn't polite. My mother also went to great lengths when raising me to make sure I was living a healthy life. She specifically made me eat blueberries and other fruits and foods because they are supposed to prevent cancer.
Every time she said it wasn't fair I would immediately and strongly reply with, "It's not about fairness." Still, there were times that I would think about this and that brought back all of the bad things that I'd ever done in my life. I tried to justify that it was fair. Damn me for being analytical. So I questioned every little bad deed I had ever done. No one is perfect. I may have been a really good behaved little boy and always did everything I was told but sure, I did some bad things.
However, I always came to the conclusion that getting testicular cancer had absolutely nothing to do with fairness.
P.S. If you smoke and get lung cancer, then yeah, you're an idiot and I'll blame you.
P.S.S. Even though my mother doesn't say it anymore I'm sure she believes that it wasn't fair that I got cancer.
Joined: Mar 2010
I don't blame myself for getting it specifically. I blame myself for what has happened to my family as a result of it and me being the cause of that for getting sick in the first place. I first got it in apr 08 had "it" removed and did radiation. then in jan 09 the same type of cancer came back but in my abdomen. Long chemo treatments and not able to work we ended up losing everything and am now having to start over at 38. Had to uproot family and move 400 miles back home to live with mom for a while. wife and kid hated it.
to say "might have been better off" letting the lung clots get me has entered my mind.
Joined: Apr 2002
jsm,
My nightmare began in 1980, with two surgeries and a two-year protocol of combination chemo, accompanied by job loss and eventual divorce. I was a broken man, physically, emotionally, and financially. However, my life got better. After 5 years of post-treatment rejections, I got a job. I also started dating, meeting some interesting women. I even changed careers, going back to grad school for a second masters degree. Although I live alone, I actually prefer it that way. If you had asked me how I felt about things back in 1982, I would have sounded pretty much as you sound now.
Where there is life, there is hope!
Courage and Peace of Mind!
Rick