Jan 27, 2010 - 12:05 pm
In October I posted the same subject; but now that my wife is at the end of her chemo I now need some caregiver support and advise.
After her last chemo, she has portrayed me as "not being there" for her, being basically selfish, and delegating duties to others. She said she just wanted me to be there for her. I did go on a missions trip and it was something that she supported and told me to do at the beginning. I was absolutely blindsided by her feeling and statement. In my eyes I have been there, and have considered it my honor to care for her. I have taken care of us and our children and have done it with care to be humble to be sure that nothing is "about me". The bottom line is that she is truly so far from the truth, that I want to find out if this is typical to go through.
I wonder if deep down she is coping with the fact that I don't "have cancer too" and in that respect am not with her?
Wow! Has anyone been blindsided by their partner with cancer? I feel like I've been hit with a 2x4 board!