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Onmyknees4U
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Joined: Jan 2010

I just joined today. I've been reading the posts for about 2 weeks. I'm so blessed by all the love,info and encouragement here. My son in law(who is MY SON in heart)has been incarcerated since Oct.2007.He was just riding my bike and was stopped and harassed by police and unfortunately didnt co operate and landed a 4 year sentence. He was diagnosed June 2009 with Hypopharyngeal cancer. Neck surgery,dental work and finally Radiation started in Dec.2009. I havent talked to him in over a year nor seen him.We support him through letters but he has no physical contact comfort.Finally we are allowed phone calls.If he has voice I should hear from him this week. Also I planned a Visit for Feb. 20. 30 Rad treatment i dont know what shape I'll find him in. Last letter his esophagus was burned and soft pallet infected. He was dreading getting feeding tube procedure. P.S. He's 600 plus miles from us. Sorry for all the words-but thanks for being there.I wish he could access this site! Sally

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stevenl
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Joined: Jan 2010

God bless you sally. I have only been here a few days and have not had any procedures yet, but I have to tell you this is the right place for you. I will pray for you and your SON,
and just ask questions- you will get answers here.

Again God Bless
Steve

Onmyknees4U
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Joined: Jan 2010

Thank you steve! I was reading posts and saw your arrival and the response you received was beautiful to see. Thats why I must find SOME way for my son Victor to participate!

Prayers to you for your journey in the Lords workshop.

Sally

Chefdaddy
Posts: 164
Joined: Dec 2009

Hello Sally,

My heart goes out to you, your family and your son. I will keep you all in my prayers.

What State is he being help in? I would suggest that you try to get what's called a "Compassionate Release" for him, as he has a fairly short prison term.

I hope this helps,

May God Bless you all,

Chefdaddy

Onmyknees4U
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Joined: Jan 2010

Chefdaddy

I will ask Victor about that! Thanks for the terminology. I googled "early release" and got nowhere. He's in Northern calif.Mule creek in Ione.

Thank you for your Blessing and I willl continue to follow your journey with Prayer.

Sally

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pk
Posts: 192
Joined: Aug 2009

Bless you for the support you are giving to your son-in-law. Be his advocate and research what you might be able to do for him. Where is he receiving his treatment? I doubt that the med staff at a prison would be qualified to do much of anything. I am so happy that you have a visit scheduled - this will be good for you too. Please keep us posted on Victor as well as you.

It is wonderful he has you in his corner. Every person who is incarcerated needs an advocate and a second chance.

Holding you in my heart,
Phyllis

Onmyknees4U
Posts: 12
Joined: Jan 2010

Thanks for the encouragement. Victor had a very neglectful and abusive childhood. when he came into our lives he experienced the true love of family. He loves my kids and had his second childhood with them! we're literally all he has right now. He seems to be happy with the Dr.s he's had and their care. Of course nothing to compare it to. Im learning alot here
and will be better able to help him be more informed. He had kept alot of the downside of things from me. On line med. info I found was hard to make "real". Now that Im up to speed, you can be sure I will be more involved. I really didn't know WHAT he was enduring until the Lord led me to this site!

Thank you again Phyllis

Sally

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Hondo
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Joined: Apr 2009

Welcome and glad you found us here at CSN, sorry to hear all the news about your son in law. I wish you well and will be praying for you both.

Onmyknees4U
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Thank You so very,very much. I love your LORDS WORKSHOP analogy! Those words can truly BLESS.

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