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Hi everyone. This is a God sent site. I got the official word today about my moms condition(Ovarian Cancer 4th Stage). The doctor told my wife that my mom would be lucky to see another 3 months. The cancer has spread to her lungs and heart. They did surgery on her yesterday morning to remove the fluid that had accumulated around her lungs and heart, my mom is 62. I love my mom dearly, we've been through so much. I have faith in God but I cant fight this feeling inside telling me I'm not going to have my mom anymore. She still has tubes in her that are draining the fluid,they should be out in a couple of days. She is able to eat but not much. My mom decided to heal from her recent surgery before she made any decisions on chemo or hospice care. Its crazy, just two years ago my mom survived a heart attack and a 5-quad bypass, just to end up with this. Any advice would be greatly appreciated, I have already read some encouraging things on the site and as I'm hurting I know I'm not the only one and my prayers are with everyone on this site as well. God bless!

Rick.

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Rick my heart goes out to you and your family. Three years ago I lost my Mom to ovarian. It was stage 4 at the time of diagnosis. She had major surgery but was too weak for chemo. She was told..I was told.... to expect her to live no more than 2 weeks to 4 months. Well, she lived another 18 months. A lot depends on her attitude. A lot depends on God. This is not an easy path to walk. But sometimes the love and the bond between people defy any kind of timeframe. You have come to a good place, lots of support here. There are ladies here who have battled this disease for many years, one of them, Bonnie, has battled for 7 years. Don't ever accept that this is the end of things. Ask questions, pray and come here for support. Let us know how things are going for your family. Hugs, Cindy

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Thank you so much Cindy. Your words of encouragement are priceless for me right now. I will keep you updated, this is day 2. I'm sorry to hear about your loss and I pray Gods peace always keeps you.

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Rick,
Good luck to your Mom and your family. Yes, it is very scary and very sad!!! Giving your mom time to recover from surgery is important!!!! Hopefully she will start feeling better soon. At the age of 41 and in good health I was in the hospital initially for almost 3 weeks. So, it will take time!!! Be supportive and strong for your Mom. Yes, there are survival stories on here. I was diagnosed with stage 4 ovarian in Sept. 08. Best of luck to your family! Let us know how she does.
Nancy

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Dear Rick:

I'm so sorry to hear that your mother and all of you have received such horrible news. We're never prepared for something like this, and only faith and time will enable us a way to deal with it all. I'm so glad to hear you have a strong faith, as it has seen me through much, as well as many of us here on this board. Please don't lose site of the fact that, as the other ladies said, much is in God's hands.

Your mother sounds like a strong lady. Once the tubes are out, she is home, and she can absorb all the information, I'm sure she'll make the decision that is right for her. This is never easy, but with a concerned and loving son such as you, it will help her a great deal.

Continue to find encouragement and hope here. And when you're able, keep in touch. In the meantime, I will be praying for hope, help, wisdom and healing for your Mom.

Monika

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Rick,

Sorry to hear about your mom. I know what that feels like.

As others have said there is only One who is in charge of our Comings and Goings. Don't get discouraged regarding numbers and statistics. Our God is above man's time table. We know that doctors have to give their diagnosis because that is their job, but we also know The God who gave Job back more than he lost.

Positive attitude and the will to fight go a long way, too!

Thanks so much for sharing with us and keep us posted.

Living for Eternity,
Libby ☺

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We are so pleased that you found our discussion group. I am Stage 4 also, and have been treating this monster since 3/2/2007. I would not pay much attention to any doctor's time line. Keep your faith and we will add you to our daily prayers. The chemo I was on first shrunk my tumors by more than half, so I know that the chemo works on the tumors. (((HUGS))) Saundra

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I want to thank you guys so very much for your words of encouragement and hope. This is the hardest thing Ive ever had to go thru. I did not know where to turn for advice or comfort. I truly believe God has used all of you to bring that comfort I needed. I was at the hospital today with mom and shared with her my experience on this site. This is day 2 and looking into her eyes was piercing my heart, but one day at a time I know God will strengthen us all. Again, Thank you, and God bless you all!

-Rick

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Hi Rick,
I've been caring for my mother for almost a year, and she is still having mostly happy days. That's what this journey is about, and there is much joy to be found amidst the sorrow. My best advice is to be ready to sit and talk. Make time just for that. Your mother looks like a beautiful lady. Keep telling her that she's beautiful, too, because this disease takes its toll on a woman's soul.

You are welcome to visit the caregivers and emotional support forums along with this one -- a rare assemblage of truly wise women and the people who love them.

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Rick, thank you for sharing the news about your mother. As the other ladies said, many prayers will be said for her, and even though the doctor said three months, she may live much, much longer. It's wonderful she has a son like you to help her out. I will remember her in my prayers. What's her first name if you don't mind sharing?

Marty

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I strongly believe in the power of prayer! The prayers of the righteous availeth much!! I don't mind sharing at all, my moms first name is Pearl, Pearl C. Collins. Thank you so much, I really mean it, thank you!

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Thank you Barbara, I will visit the other forums. I'm praying for you and your mom as well! It is my prayer that Gods grace and favor embrace everyone on this forum and it become a place of miracles that defy every doctors report! God bless and have a good night, I will keep you posted.

Rick.

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I'm so sorry for your mom and you having to go through this. I was dx 3C June of 07 and am still here after 20 doses of chemo and several surgeries. God has given me grace each step of the way, and although I "freak out" sometimes, as long as I take it a step at a time, it works out. I have to say that I have met some of the most incredible people, and although it would sure be nice to meet them some other way, it has been a huge encouragement. Tell your mom that Kathleen in Japan is praying for her today that she will have peace that is beyond understanding.
Blessings to you, your family and dear dear mom!
Kathleen

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Hi Kathleen. Thank you for your concern and your prayers!! I will definitely let mom know. The doctors have requested that the family be present tomorrow to hear what they have to say. My stomach is in knots and I have a permanent lump in my throat that is only relieved temporarily by a good cry. Maybe its just me being mad at the world at times but I feel like the doctors have already planned her funeral, I know that's irrational but its how I feel sometimes. But all the comments that I have received including yours are really helping me to cope with this. This is the first site I come to when I get on my computer. Well this is day 3 and God is still God, and I praise him and trust him to take care of my mom. Love you guys.

Rick

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I too am new to this site. Just signed up a few minutes ago. I am so very sorry to hear about your mom. I will keep her in my prayers. I was diagnosed with stage 3c ovarian cancer Oct. 2, 2002 and have been through numerous rounds of different chemo regimens. The best way that I know of to deal with this ordeal is to stay strong in your faith, stay positive no matter what the outcome. Take a deep breath, exhale and let God be in charge. My mother has always told me to give my problems and worries to God. Once you do that you can never take it back. It now belongs to Him and He is in charge. We may not always understand why but always know that He will be there for you, your mom and the entire family. This is my prayer for you: May God's presence and His eternal love give you the peace and strength to conquer the battles that lie ahead. Amen.

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Please remember Dr's aren't gods and they don't have all the answers.GOD is in charge of everything in this universe. Your mom could live for years with stage 4 cancer. The saying on this site is no one has an expiration date stamped on them. I don't know where your mother lives or where she is being treated but it never hurts to get a second opinion. I pray that you and your family will put this in God's hands and have peace in knowing that he Loves you and will never fail you. One thing you learn quickly after cancer diagnosis is that you are not in charge. You have to be strong and support your mother, help her make decisions that she will have to make.I pray that God will give you the strength and peace to endure.

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Its so encouraging to hear that you have been winning the fight against cancer! I too will pray for continued peace, power,joy and long life for you. Thank you for your kind words of advice and hope. And what you say is so true "LET GO AND LET GOD"! I'm sure you will gain many new friends,prayers and encouragement on this site. Ive only been apart of this group for a few days now, and the people on here have helped me tremendously! Again thank you and God bless. Oh, by the way, my mom starts her first treatment of chemo tomorrow. I pray her body responds well to the treatment, but God is in control. Love yall!

Rick

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I had a reaction and they had to stop the infusion for 45 minutes, then start it back at a much slower rate. I left the building in a wheelchair and felt like road kill for the next two days. Tell your mom not to be discouraged if this happens. My number 2-4 sessions were much, much easier.

My "cancer team" of doctor, nurses, techs, etc has been wonderful (save one). They really, really care about their patients and I'm sure your mom will get wonderful care, too. I went to a "Look Good, Feel Better" thing at the hospital yesterday and stopped to see my nurses from Sept/Oct. Two of them friended me on Face Book and we "talk" often, but there is nothing like a good face-to-fac hug. I ran into my Oncologist at the nurse's station and said, "Have you seen my lab report......my CA125 is NINETEEN"!!! He hugged me, too. And this morning, when his nurse called to schedule my CBC for tomorrow morning (to determine if I can finally have my root canal), she said, "Your tumor marker is down to NINETEEN"!!! They want the best possible outcome for me, almost as much as I do.

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Hi Rick,

I know that feeling you have in the pit of your stomach - you're not ready to lose your mom. Me neither. When my mom was first diagnosed I went back and forth between: We can beat this, it's going to be ok - and, I need to prepare myself for the fact that she may not make it. When I am optimistic I feel I am not realistic, when I am realistic I feel that I am giving up on her. I know about the shock you are going through, and I'm so sorry you and your family are going through this.

I am going to give you some advice I wish someone had given me - stay off the internet, except sites like this... Sometimes less info is better when you're going through the initial shock. Don't look up statistics, any generic info... Talk to your mom's docs about your mom - and focus on what's right for HER.

Just let her know you're there for her and you love her. The rest will come. I know it's cliche, but one day at a time is best. Keep us posted.

Lisa

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Hello Rick,

I just read your concerns and they are valid. Your mom's story sounds so much like mine and many others; I too was told upon my initial diagnosis that I would be lucky to survive 3 months with my stage 4 ovarian cancer.

Guess what? Next month will make me a 3yr cancer survivor!

First remember this; keeping positive with faith and prayer makes all the difference for your mother and you, so be sure to continue to surround her with that positive energy!

One thing I have learned on this journey of ups and downs is that with each day there is always hope; with each day is a possibility of newer medicines/treatments becoming available. I tell you I even participated in a research study that further extended my life.

I cried so many, many times and my daughter was with me with more strength than I could ever imagine and her strength helped me through a dark hour.

I don't want to ramble, so my point to you is this...what the doctors say is never written in stone (they usually just give a worst case scenario so in the event the worst happens). My doctor is still amazed that I am here :-). We have that kind of relationship. :-)

I'm keeping your mom, you and your family in my prayers.

Please keep in touch with how she is faring.

Sharon

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I just wanted to relay my story about my Mother diagnosed in Oct 2004 with Stage IV Ovarian Cancer. We were so uninformed at the time about the fact that some women do survive for long periods of time. We were offered no hope only treatment that might extend life for a short period. We opted to fight until all therapy was exhausted. Well long story short, my Mom is not only alive but has a fantastic quality of life! We had surgery, eight rounds of chemotherapy, a little over a year of no cancer activity, then some cancer activity, more therapy, and we are almost on the two year mark of no activity again. We shop, she does all of her housework, cooks, it is almost as if she never had cancer. I did take her to MDAnderson two times for second opinions and they were wonderful.

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Hi Rick! Please, forgive me for bad spelling, I am russian. I am happy for you and your Mother! Thuambs up! I like to know, if your Mother benefit from second opinions of MDAnderson. I read about them alot good things. I am thinking about second opinion from them for me. I live in Wisconsin, will be not easy to make it . I wish you and your Mom be strong and God bless you both. Sinserely, Zina.

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First I would like to say thank you guys for all your posts! They have helped me tremendously! Well, yesterday morning (6 days after first chemo) my mom woke up with severe abdominal and leg pain, so much so that my sister called 911. The paramedics said that it looked as if she was having a reaction caused by her recent chemo treatments. Around 5:30 am she was admitted into the hospital. They took vitals and all that as well as a stool sample. Today I got a call saying that all the immediate family members need to come asap. I cant lie I lost it. All I was thinking is this is it. I fought thru the tears in order to call my sister and wife and a few close friends. Long story short the doctor informed us that mom had an infection in her intestines and her white blood cells were very low. He did confirm that the low cell count was from the chemo and the infection was from the poor immune system. We have only just begun this journey with cancer and I feel like a truck has run me over. Its been 11 days or so since we got the news and already I have experienced more emotion than sometimes I can handle. Dont get me wrong, I am so thankful to God because it has brought my family closer together, made my faith stronger and has caused me to experience God like I never have before. Also I have met the most wonderful, inspiring people right here on this website! I will keep everyone posted and thank you for sharing this journey with me, God keep all of us.

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The chemo treatments more often than not play havoc with both red and white blood cells. My white count was .9 last week and I had to postpone my root canal yet again, but yesterday it was 1.7 and my chemo went as scheduled.

A week after chemo treatment, the body's white cells are apt to be very low, but they should rally before her next treatment. Hopefully, they can treat the infection with antibiotics and get her back on her feet again.

I know this is tough on your family, but most of us only have to endure 6 initial sessions of chemo. And the good news is, the first ones are usually the worst.

Just a suggestion.......while your mom is doing chemo she needs to stay away from crowds, small children, and anyone who has so much as a sniffle. She may have to resort to handing out surgical masks to visitors and wearing one herself, but that's okay. And lots of hand-washing. It is VERY important. Especially for anyone preparing/touching her food.

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I ask God to help you and your Mom. Lets hope she will fight it and become stronger again. Wiyh best wishes, Zina.

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I will send a prayer up for your mother to have an extra portion of healing. This is unfortunate but there is still hope. I am glad that your sister called 911. Saundra

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Hello, I pray that Pearl will get better quickly. I'm so sorry to hear about this. I'm praying for you and your family also. May God hold you close and give you peace.

Blessings,

Marty

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Hello to all my dear friends. Sorry its been so long since my last update on my mom. Well after nine chemo treatments my moms ca125 (In the beginning over 1200) is 69! The fluid that was surrounding her heart and lungs has no longer been a problem. I am so grateful for all the prayers and words of encouragement! It has been an up and down journey so far. Even now mom is not exactly "bouncing off the walls" but praise God she is still alive!! If you remember the doctors said she would be lucky to see another 3 months of life, BUT GOD! They also originally told us that surgery (hysterectomy) was not an option, but now she has surgery scheduled for the 23rd of this month(pending a clearance from her cardiologist). I hope everyone that has been keeping up with my mom is doing well. Please drop a post to say hello. I love you guys, lets all continue to pray and stay POSITIVE!

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I am so happy to see your post!! Thank you for updating, I have been watching for one. Your Mom is doing amazing, thanks to God and all the prayers and her wonderful family. May she and all of you keep going in that good direction. I will keep her in mind on the 23rd, please let us know how she does. And take care of YOU, too. HUgs to your family, Cindy

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Amazing.....I am so happy for you and your mother...right now, my mother is experiencing a remission....that she was told would never happen...I think this board is magic...I swear it's because of all the prayers from this site..

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I am so glad tht your mom is doing so much better, that her CA125 has come down and the fluid is no longer a problem. Positive thinking, prayers and alot of love are some of the best sources of the healing process.
My thoughts and prayers are with your Mom.
Dinora

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What terrific progress your beautiful Mom has made. Chemo is a tough road, but it can do wonderous things. I'm so pleased for all of you.
(((HUGS))) Maria

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I have just been reading this thread and feel so emotional. Your mum's experiences are so similar to mine. I had fluid around my lungs but my cancer is slightly different to the other ladies. It is Primary Peritoneal Cancer. It is the same tissue type as ovarian as it is treated in the same way and has similar symptoms.

My experience of oncologists are they always paint the very worse picture and very rarely give a positive view or outcome. I am stage 4 as I had cancer cells in the fluid around my lungs - as I guess your mum is, but I was diagnosed last Nov and am still here. I have had 6 rounds of chemo and have finished. My CA125 is 65 (it was 1119) at diagnosis.

I am so pleased your mum is still with you and that she is allowed to have surgery as this will give her a great advantage with the cancer.

I hope things continue to improve and boy what a rollercoaster of a ride have you had in a short space of time.

Tina x

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Glad to hear your mom is better. there is power in prayer and this site has that. Stay positive it really helps and only God has the final say. We are all fighters here and we fight for each other when the going gts tough. Lots of prayers coming your way for you , your mom and the family

Cat

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Dear rick,
I just found out hours ago that my beloved sister of only 50 yrs. old has stage 4 ovarian cancer. I not only needed good news for myself but for everyone. God bless you so much for your story. Also a special thanks to all who shed some light on this terrible cancer. Not like their is a good one to have.
I just got back from church and a friend asked WHY? does God do this. I was quick to add it's
not God that does this. But I believe that God gives us and the people diagnosed the strength
to carry on. I have been bleesed by God to have it instilled in my head that"Life is precious
so don't take it for granted". I just feel so bad that someone so good has to go through an ordeal such as this.
Sicerely, Chris Washkowiak

msfanciful
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Hi,

Oh Thank God!

I am so glad to hear the good news.

Don't expect life to get back to how it was before cancer. But your mom's life will become enriched over time. She'll have a wonderful but a different life that's all. This will be an up and down journey for you and your mom. We have all been there.

I am howling when you said the oncologists gave your mom only 3 months to survive. They told me this also...is this just a standard number or something they draw from a hat? LOL! I am now living with this cancer 3yrs and 1 month.

And do not let your mother sit in a corner and wallow in sadness, pity and fear (at least for not too long), because she has every right to feel these emotions, but if she is the strong woman she apparently appears to be, she'll pull out of it live life like she's never lived it before. And then you'll have to BEG her to sit down. LOL! It's a process she must go through spiritually to heal, but it takes time. I have to say I did not begin to feel like myself, physically or spiritually until about the 2 year mark (maybe 2 and 1/2 years).

Now at 53, I received my first tattoo. I've skydived, I completed training to be a volunteer in the "ACS Look Good Feel Better" program, I'm getting ready to take professional horse-riding lessons and a CPS course as well... life is not over until it's over. In the meantime again, I am so happy for this positive news.

I will continue to pray for your mom.

Love,

Sharon

P.S. How could I forget? I'm also preparing to go to Germany in August lord willing (I'm soooo excited).

catcan
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I am amazed by you. I told my daughter on Sat that I want to get a tattoo of a teal ribbon on my ankle. She said go for it. I'm 61 so I guess it's time. You are an inspiration and I am going to make a list of things to do.

Hugs

Cat

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Oh, Rick!!

I am sooo very happy to read the update on your mom!!

It just goes to show, that no matter what anybody says, or what statistics say, we can and will beat this thing.

Please tell your mother that she is an inspiration to all of us, and never give up hope!

and have those ice chips ready when she wakes up from surgery :-)

~Susan xoxo

kayandok
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thank you for updating us on the good news!!

Blessing to you and your dear mom,
kathleen:)

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So sorry to hear that your mom has had this diagnosis. My mom was diagnosed just as she turned 63 with stage 4 ovarian/primary peritoneal cancer. Her cancer caused cancerous fluid in her lungs. She was "sprinkled" with grains of cancer in her abdomen at the time of diagnosis, as well. She has been in chemo for 15 of the last 18 months, but she is still fighting and was actually on a vacation last weekend. She is starting a new chemo routine tomorrow. Your mom may do better than the doctors think. I know of many people who lived for years after they were given 3 months to live. Be careful not to read too much outdated information on the internet. I would highly recommend a second opinion with a expert in the gynocology oncology field. Don't settle for an oncologist without expertise in this field. Are you by any chance in the Chicago area? If so, I have a recommendation for a dr here.

Good luck and God bless you, your mom, and your family.
Eileen

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Wow, it’s been a long time since I’ve posted to the site. My mom’s journey with cancer started right here on this site back in 2010. They gave her 3 months to live and God said "how about 3 more years"? Ha! Well first I just want to encourage anyone reading this post who is feeling overwhelmed, hopeless, helpless or afraid; Prayer and a positive, fighting spirit can work miracles! I would love to hear from my friends from 2010.

Today has been a challenge for me because my mom has been moved from a 19-day hospital stay into a Christian hospice facility. Since 2010 her ovarian cancer turned into breast cancer, which went back into ovarian cancer (Lymph node in groin). Funny though, it’s not the cancer that put my mom into hospice, it’s a rare infection of the lungs. We all initially thought it was lung cancer but soon found out through surgery and tests that it was not cancer.

I’m so tired emotionally guys, I did not want this to go this way, who does? So here I am 3 years later faced with losing my mom again. But don’t be sad, I’ve had my mom for the last three years against all odds! I still believe that God can raise her from this situation just as he did back in 2010.

My mom is tired and I can’t blame her. I would be too. I’m all out of prayers, I just say at this point, "lord your will be done". I wasn’t sure if I wanted to post this news because I didn’t want to discourage anyone, but you need to know that no matter what the doctors say OR the symptoms say, you can survive, you can be happy, you can fight, you do have a say in the matter, God is real, prayer does work and no mountain is so big that God cant move it out of your way!! Treasure every single moment you have with your loved ones. Please don’t take one second for granted! Live, love, laugh and treasure every moment. You don’t have to see the evidence to have faith, just as you don’t need to see the air to breath. Hold on to what is good, make as many new memories as you can and when you look up and realize how far God has brought you, give him praise!!!

I cant say I know any of you reading this, but I can say you are reading this not by coincidence. I’m praying right now for every person that has looked at this post. You need to know and believe our God is an awesome God, and he loves us so much! Be encouraged, I love you guys with all the love of the lord that is in my heart. I’m writing this for myself as well, we all need God, and I’m not going to lie, I need him now more than ever. Feel free to reply to this post, as I will be checking back.

Thanks for letting me vent *smile*, be strong...

Sincerely

Rick Collins

PS: I love you mom...

 

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What an awesome testimony for The Lord you have posted!  No we don't need to see Him to know He is real, just like we don't need to see the air to breathe. Love that comment. It is so true. 

Im so glad your mom has beat the odds and has been here the last 3 years. God has been good. 

Im so sorry your mom is going through a tuff moment. Im sure you are prayed out. I will be praying for you tonight. God is near to the broken hearted. 

Sincerely

Shawnna

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Hey, thanks so much for your prayers. I mean really, I don’t take it lightly that you would set aside the time to pray for us in a world that moves so fast. The prayers of the righteous availeth much!! And your right about broken hearted, even though my mom is still here physically, I’ve never felt such pain in my heart, you know? But God is a heart fixer. Thank you again for your kindness and I pray Gods grace in every area of your life as well! Keep in touch.

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Sometimes it's like my faith is hurting because I can't see the "unseen". However , we know He rose from the grave, we know he walked this earth and we can sometimes hear that small still voice speaking to his sheep. 

Keep us posted on how your mom is doing. 

Still thinking of you and your mom. 

Gods bless 

shawnna

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Just to let you know I am thinking of you and your lovely mum. You are a wonderful son :)

Michelle x

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Thank you Michelle, its because of people like you that will take the time to say "Im thinking about you" that make this site such a blessing.

-Rick

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How wonderful to have been witness to such a miracle as your dear Mom!  While I know it has been emotionally draining, and not without difficulty, I can see that you've been given the strength and hope that only HE can provide to see you and your Mom through this.  Think of how many lives you and she have touched, people that might not otherwise have known of His love and saving Grace.  I'm sure, just being on this site has planted seeds of Hope to so many.

Thank you for sharing, Rick.  Prayers continue for your Mom and you and your family.  You can 'vent' anytime - we'd love to continue to hear from you.

Till later. . .

Monika

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Hey Monika,

 

Thank you for your response, it is so very encouraging when someone will listen to your problems and take the time to share a word of hope and insight! I cant tell you how much the people on this site has helped me through some rough spots. Many blessings to you and your family! Yes, we will keep in touch.

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CRM
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Hi Rick.  I'm new to this board and saw your comment from 2010.  Scrolling down, it's amazing to see that your mother is still with us.  You are very lucky and I hope that the 2 of you are busy celebrating life, especially the little things.  I am a mom.  My son is now 21 years old.  My cancer was a surprise diagnosis in 2011 - I had no symptoms.  I went quickly from diagnosis to major surgery.  My son was not present for the surgery, he was traveling and I am fine with that.  Seeing me in the hospital bed all doped up and unable to move without assistance would have broken his heart.  We don't talk about the cancer except I have told him not to worry and that I am not leaving any time soon.  I don't want my diagnosis to interfere with his college studies and dreams.  Soon after the surgery and chemo I started visiting his college town every few months.  The visits were good for me because he is the JOY of my life and has taught me the meaning of real LOVE.  And I think the visits were good for my son because he saw me coping, surviving, thriving.  I won't let anything hold me down, not even cancer.  I'm a fighter.  I want him to learn from my strength and example that any negative experience in life should be dealt with head on.  I'm sure your mother feels the same way.  It's important to spend time with her but she does not want to suck the joy out of your life.  Rather, she will enjoy your joy and be proud that you are a survivor that understands the gift of life.  I hope getting a mom's perspective is helpful.  Maybe some mom's want their children to suffer along but most mom's would want to minimize their children's suffering and most of all for their children to learn that illness and even death is a part of life.  The connections we have to our children are life long and continue even after life.  By being there for her, you are giving her the greatest gifts of love, compassion and kindness.  Try to laugh together a little too.  The laughter is a proven disease fighter and will always be a good memory.  My son's concern for my health motivated him to research natural remedies and cancer causes.  He lectures me a little about sticking to organic foods and I listen and try to comply, appreciating his concern.  If my illness causes him to eat organic, reject GMO's and encourage a healthy lifestyle, that's a good thing.  There is nobody to blame.  It just happens to some people because of genetics or unidentifiable reasons.  I read quite a bit and came to the conclusion that for people that don't have an identifiable cause like smoking - cancer just happens.  There is no proven cause or cure.  Steve Jobs went on a crazy veggie juice diet to kill his cancer.  The result, one of the wealthiest men in the world couldn't stop it.  So, I guess I am saying, be grateful that your mom has lived well beyond the original prognosis and treasure every day.  She wants you to be happy and live a full and fulfilling life.

 

 

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Rick, enjoy your mom and rjeoice in the rewarding special and just mundane times you have haD. i JUST LOST MY MOTHER IN March not to cancer but other reasons. We had a tough relationship, but I still miss her and remember the good times. Kim

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