My 43 year old brother has been living the nightmare of recurrent Nasopharyngeal cancer since Jan. 2006. At this point, after continuous weekly chemo and re-irradiation, both the radiation oncologist and his regular onc have, within a month of each other, told him that they are disappointed in treatment progress and that he can opt to go ahead and stop for now. They pointed out that the decision is his, but see no use in pumping drugs in that are not causing any change. So, he quit.
So, since then he has really become dark and moody. He lives with my mother who has breast cancer IV w/ mets and she is very fragile and not dealing well with his attitude at all. It is making her sick. He snaps at his teenage kids, mom, doesn't talk to any one who calls for him, holes up in his room, is super defensive and generally just a jerk!
I think it is probably not necessary for me to go into any more details, because each of you probably had moments of this same kind of darkness and anger. I am asking for any feedback about this because it seems I am the only one who may be able to get through to him, mom is waiting for me, and I need your support!