Dec 05, 2009 - 6:18 pm
from now on I'll probably just read not post. I feel that William over stepped his boundaries when he questioned me in his response. I also see that if you are not a William fan...you are basically ignored on this board. I was told in another board that this would happen but didn't believe it..I do now.
We are not all walking this journey in the same shoes or it would be one size fits all..it's not that easy...some cannot have surgery some have it and done well and others not so much. To be encouraged to do something your cancer team doesn't advise is not good advice..Our hospital is the U. of Chicago...their surgeon told us all the risks and said my husband is not a candidate for surgery..not that we couldn't find someone who would do it. A surgeon's job is to do surgery..period...you can always find some willing to cut..but to be told that our way of thinking is wrong..is absolutely not right.
William's dr. is top notch...but it's not for everyone..nor is he. I feel my orthopedic surgeon is the best ever..but others might not think so..despite his 15 inventions and doing the oral exams in orthopedics or being the Director of his dept..
I feel that his dr. is literally being forced on people who will never see him...too far away..being one..and to hear someone say he's the only one to go to is discouraging and actually not truthful. And not only once but every time someone new comes aboard...the story is repeated making you feel worse since his dr isn't treating your loved one...
No one can read your heart and mind, but William decided he could do both for me..plus give unneeded and not asked for advice..that's not his job. And when I replied, not even the courtesy of a response...why would that be? He has no business analizing me, my husband or our marriage nor is he qualified. Then why would he do that?
Postive attitude has nothing to do with cancer suvival except it makes having it or living around someone who has it more plesant...scientific fact.
Your immune system cannot fight cancer...it doesn't recognize it...or they would be NO cancer..except for three kinds of viral cancer it does recognize...scientific fact.so much for that positive imaging...better to imagine the radiation and chemo working hard.
I probably have overstepped the boundaries...but this is how I feel and I have seen the responses to posts...but not to mine...we got good news Friday...I wanted to share with everyone..because this cancer doesn't give much good news and our good news could become bad news quickly...but no responses..
I'll be praying for everyone as I read your posts..