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onlyhuman
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After a valiant battle, my husband passed away at 11p.m. last night. Have to finalise the funeral / cremation arrangements this morning. We cremate within 24-48 hours of death so its going to be a busy day. I am numb.

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grandmafay
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I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I understand the numbness. My thoughts will be with you as you go through the business of death - all the details. Fay

aveenam
Posts: 11
Joined: Nov 2009

How can you be so strong, you are a remarkable person to have gone through everything. When you feel upto it maybe you can share how you survived but more what how to give support to the person we love that knows they are going to die.

sue Siwek
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Joined: Jun 2009

bless you and your husband.

Vrai
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Joined: Dec 2009

I am sorry to hear of your husband's death.
You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.
<3

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marywest
Posts: 135
Joined: Sep 2009

Gods Word says that when someone dies they are in a sleep, no pain, no darkness, its a deep sleep, when Jesus christ returns to gather us, which is called the hope, Its our hope, when he returns, he will gather us who are alive and raise the dead and give them a new body and we will all meet at the same time. God says to comfort one another with those words. I didnt' write the book, God says it that settles it. You will see your husband again. Its a tremendous loss, emtions swing, struggling hard in your heart doing the necessay paperwork,and so many thoughts. You'll do it, now is the time to lean on God, let him wrap his arms tightly around you. I am praying that you will have great support throughout all of this, and that our Almighty God protects you, defends and supplies every need you have and any things you ask for you will get it. God bless you, there are alot of us up here that will be praying for you and your family.

sassy1
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Joined: Oct 2009

I would like to express my sincerest sympathy. I just lost my husband on 11/24/09 and I know exactly how you feel. You go through the motions but you are numb. They say that it will get easier but I can't see it yet. Be strong and cry often. That is what I do and sometimes I think that is what gets me through the days because I cry every night.

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grandmafay
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How is it going. I just wanted to say hello and see how you are doing. This is a tough time for you. Take care, Fay

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MichelleP
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Joined: May 2009

I also lost my husband on 10-13-09. The emotions we feel are so unpredictable from one day to another. All we can do is one step at a time. My sympathy is with you and you're family at such a heartbreaking time. God Bless you.....God Bless all of us.

onlyhuman
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Joined: Sep 2009

Fay
Thank you for thinking of me. Its been a tough few days. I have to get up and going because of the girls but part of me just wants to curl up in bed for a few days and hide away from it all. We will be picking up his ashes tomorrow and scattering them at sea. Its strange but I feel his presence so strongly that sometimes I think if I turn around he'll be there.
Sangeeta

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bluerose
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Joined: Jul 2009

My deepest sympathies on your husbands passing. You are now entering a whole new phase of dealing with all that has happened but the wonderful thing is that you have your children to keep you going as I did when I was diagnosed many years ago. Someone on here mentioned that she would like to know how you remained so strong thoroughout your ordeal so please don't be a stranger and keep coming back to tell of your journey as you will help so many others who are going through similar times, encouraging them and showing through your strength that they can do it too. It's a wonderful site, as you have realized I'm sure, we give support when we can and get support when we need it. Often just by sharing your story and looking for help and support we inadvertently help others as well. Wonderful.

My prayers are with you and yours at this difficult time. Blessings, Bluerose

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grandmafay
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I think feeling our loved one's presence is very common and reassuring. I, too, feel my husband's presence, sometimes stronger than others. I have no doubt that he is watching over me and sometimes shaking his head. I'm sure having the girls is a real blessing. It is hard, too. Being a single parent is a tough job. I am sure that you will do it well. You do need to grieve, though. Please take care of yourself as well as your girls. One of my sons and I buried my husband's ashes. Because I believe that the body is just the vessel and that my husband's being, his soul, and his love had already left that body, it was easier than I thought. My thoughts will be with you. I wish you peace and love. Fay

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pattynonews
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Joined: Aug 2009

My thoughts and prayers are with you, I wish there was something that I could say that will make the pain go away, It has been little over a month since Jack passed away it is so hard, I miss him so much, And I can seem to get pass the grief, it is so overwhelming sometimes, it has gotten so bad I will just drink at night to make the pain go away, And I know that is not the answer, And I just cant figure out how to move on, and to start over, The last 18 months have been about cancer and Jack, How do we move on does anyone have an answer,

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grandmafay
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I was glad to see you back here. You're right that the drinking isn't going to help in the long run. I wish I had words that would help. Please take care. My prayers are with you. Fay

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