Nov 06, 2009 - 8:39 pm
My wife's father was diagnosed with ALL 2 weeks ago and found out Wednesday he has the Philidelphia chromosome. The first treatment was fairly new and the side effects were awful. Luckily his body is responding. Today they started chemo into his spine. My wife, as you can imagine, is emotionally all over the board. She is a stay at home mom with 3 children 8, 6 and 19 months. I am being as supportive as I can but there is nothing I can say or do to comfort her except to be available to listen and take on as much as I can while maintaining employment to give her time to see her father.
I am having some real problems keeping quiet about how he is acting toward his family. He is not communicating and seems to be taking it very hard. It has been 2 weeks and I want to go and shake him and say "wake up". There is a life going on right now and it is his and I don't want him wasting time. There is nothing he can do about having it, but he can do something about dealing with it. He has an opportunity to take the bull by the horns and tear down the tough man exterior and tell people how he feels and let them become a part of his healing process. My wife says he does not speak to her when she is there and feels like she is just there staring at him. I want to grab him and tell him there is nothing he can do but fight and I believe attitude has everything to do with healing. His family is by his side every day and I don't understand why he is treating them this way. Can any one give me advice?
I am concerned because thelong term does not look good statiscally and I want him to cherish these moments he has.
Any advice on getting through to him and supporting my wife would be greatly appreciated