Guess what some stupid lady said to me at Walgreens???

Taina
Taina Member Posts: 166
edited March 2014 in Breast Cancer #1
What a nice haircut...........
i was speechless, just gave her a look...
I just finished chemo 6 wks ago....currently on radiation treatment...
My hair just started to grow....
just wanted to vent.....
thanks!!!!
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  • Sam726
    Sam726 Member Posts: 233
    #2
    OMG
    What a b*$%!...lol. I would have told her off...I assume she was being catty with you? I got called a dike once when I first shaved my head. It pissed me off too...I cant figure people out sometimes!
  • Fran1947
    Fran1947 Member Posts: 72
    #3
    Crazy!
    Some people are just SO CLUELESS!!!!!

    My husband - who has been tremendous through this whole thing - told me after he shaved my head that I now look exactly like my son, who is in the Air Force. Hmmmmm.....
  • Taina
    Taina Member Posts: 166
    #4
    Sam726 said:

    OMG
    What a b*$%!...lol. I would have told her off...I assume she was being catty with you? I got called a dike once when I first shaved my head. It pissed me off too...I cant figure people out sometimes!

    me 2
    I have a 22 and 17 y.o. girls...i'm just glad they were not with me. They would have says lots of bad words and maybe jump the lady...
  • Taina
    Taina Member Posts: 166
    #5
    Fran1947 said:

    Crazy!
    Some people are just SO CLUELESS!!!!!

    My husband - who has been tremendous through this whole thing - told me after he shaved my head that I now look exactly like my son, who is in the Air Force. Hmmmmm.....

    clueless
    i know what you mean...family members can be as bad sometimes....
    one of my brother one day rang the door bell, it was one of my bad days
    while going thru chemo and he asked me when i open the door "are you sick"?.
    no joke....
  • VickiSam
    VickiSam Member Posts: 9,079 Member
    #6
    Taina said:

    clueless
    i know what you mean...family members can be as bad sometimes....
    one of my brother one day rang the door bell, it was one of my bad days
    while going thru chemo and he asked me when i open the door "are you sick"?.
    no joke....

    Family .. I know what you mean
    My sister came by to visit me last week - (I was on house lock down due to low white blood cell count), she came out and said .. Oh, you don't look too bad .. Let me see you bald head .. I said .. Excuse me .. In other words, she didn't come by to actually visit me, but to see the ill side efforts of my chemo treatments ..

    Go figure ..

    VickiSam
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  • jnl
    jnl Member Posts: 3,869 Member
    #8
    So sorry Taina. I am sure
    So sorry Taina. I am sure or hope that she was just trying to compliment you. You are a doll! Sorry it hurt your feelings.

    Leeza
  • mberg
    mberg Member Posts: 62
    #9
    you look beautiful without
    you look beautiful without your hair! i wish my head was shaped so nicely! what a total db.
  • Grains
    Grains Member Posts: 27
    #10
    I know it is hard to
    I know it is hard to believe, but some people just can't help but say the wrong thing. They are nervous them selves, so they just blurt something out. I want you to know that you are so cute. Your short hair is a badge of courage and strength. You are a SURVIVOR and no one can take that from you. You are not sick any more. You are well and beautiful and you are getting more beautiful each day. God Bless you!
  • MyTurnNow
    MyTurnNow Member Posts: 2,686 Member
    #11
    Perhaps this lady also went
    Perhaps this lady also went through cancer treatments. I remember Claudia making the statement previously that she would approach women with the comment "I used to have the same haircut" (or something like this). I would hate to think that people are that cruel. Just a thought.

    P.S. You are beautiful with or without a head of hair!!!
  • CypressCynthia
    CypressCynthia Member Posts: 4,014 Member
    #12
    unbelievable
    I had a physician say to me "that's a radical haircut." I didn't miss a beat and replied "yeah it's the chemo special." Then she apologized all over the place. People just don't engage their brains before engaging their mouths ;-)
  • Taina
    Taina Member Posts: 166
    #13
    CypressCynthia said:

    unbelievable
    I had a physician say to me "that's a radical haircut." I didn't miss a beat and replied "yeah it's the chemo special." Then she apologized all over the place. People just don't engage their brains before engaging their mouths ;-)

    thank you all
    Ladies you are the best...thank you so much for making me feel so beautiful....
    my hair is the lease of my worries but it just makes me mad when stupid people make stupid comments....
    I know my hair will grow. I just want part of my normal life back....
    2 more wks of rads, then will start tamoxifen for 5 yrs...
    Thanks again for all your support...
  • DebbyM
    DebbyM Member Posts: 3,289 Member
    #14
    Taina said:

    thank you all
    Ladies you are the best...thank you so much for making me feel so beautiful....
    my hair is the lease of my worries but it just makes me mad when stupid people make stupid comments....
    I know my hair will grow. I just want part of my normal life back....
    2 more wks of rads, then will start tamoxifen for 5 yrs...
    Thanks again for all your support...

    We are always here for
    We are always here for support Taina! Soon you will be done with rads! Celebrate!

    Debby
  • contrail
    contrail Member Posts: 129
    #15
    Taina said:

    thank you all
    Ladies you are the best...thank you so much for making me feel so beautiful....
    my hair is the lease of my worries but it just makes me mad when stupid people make stupid comments....
    I know my hair will grow. I just want part of my normal life back....
    2 more wks of rads, then will start tamoxifen for 5 yrs...
    Thanks again for all your support...

    Stay Ahead of the Stupid Comments
    When I finally got enough nerve to be in public with my almost bald head, I had my comeback comment ready. I told anyone who had a stupid comment that this was my new 'rad' look, and that all I need is a nose ring and a some leather chaps Some and I'll be ready for my Harley. Sometimes the best defense is a good offense.
  • tgf
    tgf Member Posts: 950 Member
    #16
    contrail said:

    Stay Ahead of the Stupid Comments
    When I finally got enough nerve to be in public with my almost bald head, I had my comeback comment ready. I told anyone who had a stupid comment that this was my new 'rad' look, and that all I need is a nose ring and a some leather chaps Some and I'll be ready for my Harley. Sometimes the best defense is a good offense.

    bald
    The very minute my hair started to come out I called a friend and told her to get her clippers out that I was on my way over to have her shave it all off. I was in control by golly! After she shaved my head I put on little denim bucket hat I'd ordered from tlc and my friend an I went to the mall to "celebrate." I was in control. The whole time I was hairless ... I never had a problem with it ...

    UNTIL ...

    I was flying to Connecticut to visit my son and his family and was going through airport security. I'd taken the shoes off ... put my carry on stuff on the conveyor belt etc ... then got ready to walk through the metal detector thing and the security guard on the other side told me to take my hat off. I almost broke down ... on the spot! I looked in straight in the eyes (only mine were full of tears) and said "I'm bald!" ... and then he very hesitantly said "OK" and motioned me through. No emotion from him whatsoever. It would have been so nice if he'd just said "I'm sorry" ... or given me an understanding smile ... or something. But he was like a robot and I was nothing to him. Some people just don't get it.

    hugs.
    teena
  • Fran1947
    Fran1947 Member Posts: 72
    #17
    tgf said:

    bald
    The very minute my hair started to come out I called a friend and told her to get her clippers out that I was on my way over to have her shave it all off. I was in control by golly! After she shaved my head I put on little denim bucket hat I'd ordered from tlc and my friend an I went to the mall to "celebrate." I was in control. The whole time I was hairless ... I never had a problem with it ...

    UNTIL ...

    I was flying to Connecticut to visit my son and his family and was going through airport security. I'd taken the shoes off ... put my carry on stuff on the conveyor belt etc ... then got ready to walk through the metal detector thing and the security guard on the other side told me to take my hat off. I almost broke down ... on the spot! I looked in straight in the eyes (only mine were full of tears) and said "I'm bald!" ... and then he very hesitantly said "OK" and motioned me through. No emotion from him whatsoever. It would have been so nice if he'd just said "I'm sorry" ... or given me an understanding smile ... or something. But he was like a robot and I was nothing to him. Some people just don't get it.

    hugs.
    teena

    Yes!
    I had forgotten that particular (potential) humiliation. They did make me take mine off. But I guess the fact I forgot it so quickly means I got over it. I would have preferred to decide for myself when I was ready to go public with my bald head.

    Hugs,

    Fran
  • lanie940
    lanie940 Member Posts: 490
    #18
    tgf said:

    bald
    The very minute my hair started to come out I called a friend and told her to get her clippers out that I was on my way over to have her shave it all off. I was in control by golly! After she shaved my head I put on little denim bucket hat I'd ordered from tlc and my friend an I went to the mall to "celebrate." I was in control. The whole time I was hairless ... I never had a problem with it ...

    UNTIL ...

    I was flying to Connecticut to visit my son and his family and was going through airport security. I'd taken the shoes off ... put my carry on stuff on the conveyor belt etc ... then got ready to walk through the metal detector thing and the security guard on the other side told me to take my hat off. I almost broke down ... on the spot! I looked in straight in the eyes (only mine were full of tears) and said "I'm bald!" ... and then he very hesitantly said "OK" and motioned me through. No emotion from him whatsoever. It would have been so nice if he'd just said "I'm sorry" ... or given me an understanding smile ... or something. But he was like a robot and I was nothing to him. Some people just don't get it.

    hugs.
    teena

    What a dweeb. People who
    What a dweeb. People who have never had cancer just don't understand. They can't possibly understand if they haven't walked in our shoes.
  • lanie940
    lanie940 Member Posts: 490
    #19
    You have a beautiful face
    You have a beautiful face and a beautiful shaped head. Do you know who Robin Roberts is from Good Morning America? She had breast cancer, when she did she had long hair, she had it all cut and shaved off. Now she is a survivor and keeps her hair short, not many people are beautiful enough to have short hair and be pretty, you are!

    My Oncology surgeon keeps his head shaved. But he is a bit bald anyway, lol He is awesome!
  • chenheart
    chenheart Member Posts: 5,159
    #20
    lanie940 said:

    What a dweeb. People who
    What a dweeb. People who have never had cancer just don't understand. They can't possibly understand if they haven't walked in our shoes.

    We're not in Kansas anymore, are we?????
    For the record, I wish I didn't understand cancer, and I don't like how these shoes fit!LOL Can I take them back and exchange them for say...Dorothy's Red sparkly ones????? Guess not, huh??? Sometimes I wonder how many ignorant things I said to ppl before I was ungraciously visited by the BC Beast! I hope not too many.....

    Hugs,
    Chen♥
  • Ritzy
    Ritzy Member Posts: 4,381 Member
    #21
    lanie940 said:

    You have a beautiful face
    You have a beautiful face and a beautiful shaped head. Do you know who Robin Roberts is from Good Morning America? She had breast cancer, when she did she had long hair, she had it all cut and shaved off. Now she is a survivor and keeps her hair short, not many people are beautiful enough to have short hair and be pretty, you are!

    My Oncology surgeon keeps his head shaved. But he is a bit bald anyway, lol He is awesome!

    May have been innocent
    I always try to give people the benefit of the doubt. Hopefully, she seriously was just giving you a very sincere compliment. Our nerves and tempers are on high alert usually with bc, so, we might jump to a conclusion other than what was meant. And, you are beautiful with or without hair. And, I truly mean that!

    Sue :)

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