CSN Home » Other » Surviving Caregivers

its only been a week since husband past, seem like it forever



Total items found: 2



	

					
								
cunicorn

				          
            Posts: 8

          
          
            Joined: Aug 2009

          
        					
				
		
									

        			    October 30, 2009 - 12:11am			  			

			
			
My husband of 29 years past away on 10/22/2009 after a 5 month battle with esophageal cancer. We married when we was in our early 20's and you think that you will grow old togeather do the thing you plan. after 29 years and two children now age 28 and 24 and 2 grandchildrens that i would not be so lost and feel that my world is upside down or that i would be so lonely. i wonder how i will get through another day the next not any better then the last one.


i know that my husband is now at peace and went home to his savior, but i needed him so he was my friend throught it all i always knew that he would be there when i got home from work, or if i went to my family on vacation. and now our home is not a home. we knew that he was going to past, was hoping to just get through the holidays togeather. and now they are so far ahead but yet they will be here before we know and i am crying so much thinking i can not do this but i know that i have to do it. get through one day more and pray that it not as long as it was yesterday.


‹ losing mom, i feel lost without her still in shock ›

						
login or register to post comments

				
	







	

		
			
angelsbaby's picture
						
angelsbaby

				      
	        Posts: 614

	      
	      
	        Joined: May 2008

	      
	    				
		
			
October 30, 2009 - 10:51am

			
I am sorry
			
for your loss. its been 6 months since my husband passed away from colon cancer. and i still cry everyday  I understand about the emptyness at home i have to deal with that everyday and that is the hardest for me other then missing him every minute of the day. It does get some better as time goes on but for me it will be a long time. I take one step at a time and some are baby steps and thats ok. My grandkids help me alot even thou one is 6 and the other is eight They loved their grandpa so much they always talk about him and they to miss him alot.I don't know what will come in the future but i have to go on that is what my husband would of wanted. Please take care and know that you are not alone.


take care


michelle



			
login or register to post comments

				
	





	

		
			
grandmafay's picture
						
grandmafay

				      
	        Posts: 189

	      
	      
	        Joined: Aug 2009

	      
	    				
		
			
October 30, 2009 - 9:50pm

			
Not Growing Old Together
			
My first thought when my husband was diagnosed with stage IV colon cancer was that we would not grow old together. We were married for 42 and he passed away Oct. 20, 2009. We had 6 years together after that first surgery. You'd think I would be prepared, and I was to an extent. But I'm not sure you are ever really prepared. I miss him. I can feel him near me, but I can't touch him. One of our grandchildren put that feeling in words only a 7 yr. old would. She said she talked to grandpa but she wanted to give him a hug and couldn't feel him. I talk to him a lot, too! That helps. I find comfort in the home we shared. We made some great memories together. It's not easy. My heart goes out to all of us here. I'm sure the holidays will be hard at times.  Fay



			
login or register to post comments