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pipwe1
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Joined: Oct 2009

It was 12 weeks yesterday that I lost my partner, just feeling sad today

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Buzzard
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Nothing to say but Im sorry...and its ok to feel sad. It shows the love thats there for each other..That love will always be there pipwe1...in the heart pipwe1, in the heart...my hopes for a better day tomorrow......Bless you

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MichelleP
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Joined: May 2009

It's been 15 days since I lost my husband. I feel your pain as many do here. This is the hardest journey we have ever been on, but please remember that your partner is with you ....truly in your heart. Love lives forever..........and I mean FOREVER. So, when I'm sad....I just sit and talk to him and I have no doubt in my mind that when I think of him he comes to me. I don't care what anyone says, it's true. When I think of that it brings me comfort. Please do the same and talk to your partner....feel the comfort that is being sent to you...don't shut it out! Let the love flow....then slowly the answers will come my dear!

((((HUGS))))

margaretmary
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Joined: Oct 2009

I am very sad it has been 2 months since my dad died. I am going through the motions of life but not feeling the way I did when he was here. People say it gets easier but after watching what i did how can it get easier?
My brother and family members feel that I should just let go and move on but how can you do that when your sun rose and set on this person. it totally just hurts and then I have a 9yr old autistic son who misses my dad and I cant explain to him that he is dead because he don't understand it.
Thanks for listening

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grandmafay
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I'm sure your family is worried about you. Letting go is not easy and I'm not sure we want to do that. I have told my sons that I am trying to adjust to my new normal. It's hard. Please seek counseling if this is interfering with your everyday activities. Seek help for your son also. A grief group might also help. One of our close friends has a high functioning autistic child. She told her mother that she didn't know how to feel since my husband was close to the family. I think she was being very honest. Just hold your son tight as I am sure you are. Get help for his sake if for no other reason. Fay

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SonSon
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Joined: Jul 2009

I am sad for you, too. Sad that he left your life.
I am sad that my mother-in-law is gone.
I am sad that so many people are afflicted with this awful disease and no matter how much money is spent on it a cure is not found and people are dropping like flies from it.
Fatima

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grandmafay
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Joined: Aug 2009

It has been a little over a week since I lost my husband. I'm sure the sadness will be here forever, but so will the joy of having known him. One of our sons is coming today to bury my husband's ashes. They let us do that in our cemetery. We could have had it done, but I think our son feels that this is the last thing he can do for his Dad, except, of course, watching after me. I know both sons promised their Dad they would do that. I am really proud of them for giving me my space, though. Take care. Fay

Pitapocket
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Joined: May 2009

They say it gets better. Well, it's been two years since I lost my dad, and I'm still waiting for it to get better. I suppose in some ways it does get better, but I still have times of mourning the loss. I guess you adjust, but never really get over it. Dad and I were very close, and I think a little part of me died with him. I am not the same person I used to be. This is a new normal. To all of you, I am sorry for the pain we endure because of this horrible monster called cancer. Just take your time and go easy on yourself. If there is anything I have learned it is that you have to grieve at your own pace in your own way. I agree with MichelleP, we feel them around us. My dad and I loved each other so much. And when he died, I realized that he left me with enough of his love to get me through the rest of my life, and carry me through the tough times when I really need him. I believe that when somebody dies that you love, they become your angel. So, here's to our angels...may they always be with us, bringing us peace and hope for better days ahead. God Bless all of you. And here's a big hug.

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