- Search CSN:
- Members: Login to search all areas
- Not a member? Click here to search public areas
How do I do this?
|
|
Oct 10, 2009 - 10:24 am
There's this coworker that really wants to help me a lot, but she is above me and works really close with me, and it just feels really really really weird. How do I let her know that I don't need her help in a nice way? I mean, I neeeeeeeed help, God knws, but you know...sometimes people are best kept at a bit of a distance. |
Joined: Aug 2009
Minnie-
I know the feeling, only with me it's family members. I would just let the person know that you appreciate thier offer, but that your doing ok for now. (even though this may not be the case) Sometimes I think it's hard for people that are around us to cope with what were dealing with and so instead of helping us they end up causing more harm then good.
Remember you are not alone in this fight. I will be checking back and if you need to talk you can e-mail me at joeramp@hotmail.com anytime. Get well and remember we are all survivors. -Joe-
Joined: Jul 2009
If you have a human resource department/office then talk to your HR manager. Find out if accepting assistance from your superior would cause any employment issues.
Is this superior also of the opposite sex? If so, is this what may be causing you hesitation?
I am not sure what sort of help your superior is offering you - but if it is financial maybe you can side-step any possible employment issues by using the HR department or employee assistance program as a go-between. Some large companies have funds set up for emergency assistance for people such as yourself. Your co-worker can send the money to the fund and you can take it from the fund. Just an idea to explore.
Fatima