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Ladies, it's Monday: What are your goals this week?

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OK, so I thought that since we celebrate our weekends on Fridays, we could also check in on Mondays and discuss our goals for the week. I know that I feel more accountable when I tell someone my plans or write them down. This way, we're doing both. The goals can be anything, from cancer/health related to emotional, work, relationships, etc. Like the groups for smoking and losing weight, we can cheer each other on and give advice when needed. What do you think?

So, I have several goals this week:

1) I'd like to wake up at 7 AM every morning and eat a healthy breakfast before work
2) I'd like to keep up my appearance and pick out outfits that make me look put together in the morning. That means IRONING.
3) I'd like to cycle at least 3 times this week
4) I'd like to be more productive after work -- whether that means reading, watching a film, or working on my editing. I don't want to just sit on the couch.
5) I'd like to be uncompromising on my healthy eating and cooking. That means lots of fruit, vegetables, and autumn cooking

So, what are your goals this week? Hope a few of you are interested in this!

Mimi

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This is a great idea. If I make a list, I am more likely to accomplish some of the things on it!

My goals for the week:
1) Swim at least 3 times - really work that lymph node arm for better range of motion
2) Work out at the gym 2 times
3) Not worry so much about putting chemo poison in my veins (I have to work on some positive mental imagery. I don't like drugs of any kind so this is a tough one for me)
4) Eat healthy - I love fresh fruits and veggies so I'm worried how to eat healthy if I can't have raw foods?!
5) buy my kids a new toy
6) Start a new art project
7) Don't sweat the little things

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My goals for this week ... and every week ... and every day ... are to:

1. Not ask "why me?"

2. To enjoy the beauty each day has to offer ... birds singing, leaves turning fall colors ... sunshine, rain, clouds, wind etc.

3. Be thankful for what I have ... and not stew about what might be "missing" in my life

4. To keep repeating over and over "It is what it is" ... and truly believe what I'm saying. I cannot change what IS ... so I must accept it and keep moving forward and not look at the past.

hugs,
teena

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A good thing for everyone to remember. Enjoy and savor each day. Thank you.

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A question about the raw eating. Were you told by your doctor not to? I know some people avoid raw fruits and vegetables during chemo because of the risk of food-borne illness, but many still eat them very carefully. I ate raw fruits throughout my very aggressive chemo, and they did me good. I bought everything organic and then washed them well in an organic vegetable wash. You can either spray each fruit separately with the wash and rinse or put a few drops in a bowl and wash a bunch at once. I never got sick doing this.

You sound very active and healthy. Think of the chemo as cleaning out your system of any pesky cancer cells, like a disinfectant. Then you step in and keep everything clean with your eating and exercise habits. Good luck this week.

Mimi

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Wow - that was great Mimi! That was the image I needed in my mind. As for the raw foods...yes, the dr told me not to eat anything raw when i go out. She then added that if I eat them in my house, I need to be very careful and wash wash wash. So it's manageable? Thank God because I can't imagine going without. My biggest fear is to not be able to exercise. I figure, even if I am exhausted, I should jump in the pool, say hi to everyone, and then go home. Otherwise I'll just stay in the house all day long and that is bad for me. Thanks so much!

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Gee, you don't know how hard this is for me. To actually decide on something. I'll try.

1) Dust the house
2) Run the sweeper
3) Walk the dog
4) Cook something instead of eating out
5) Make a dentist appointment-I've been putting it off

All the things that I tend to put off. My life is not real exciting.
I like walking the dog but some days I'm not able to.

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I like those goals. Hey, maybe you can get inspired by fall-like recipes, like chili or a pumpkin soup. And make that dentist appointment now before you forget! You reminded me -- I need to make a eyebrow waxing appointment for myself and Simon (he would kill me if he knew I told you this).

Mimi

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1. wash some windows...mayb not all of them...but get started anyway

2. phone friend

3. hang out online for a while

4. put beans to soak & cook them later

5. get a pedicure (it's scheduled...hurray)

6. make the hublet feel special

7. clean the bird cage ... naw...on second thought--hubbydearest can do that : )

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What kind of beans are you making? I actually don't soak mine. It just takes a bit longer to cook if you don't soak, and I think they come out just as good. I made a traditional bean chili with kidney beans last night. Really low fat. Just kidney beans, chicken stock, onions, garlic, dried cumin, dried oregano, salt and pepper. Add some tomatoes if you like. Beans are great for you! My nutritionist recommends 1/2 cup of beans, lentils, or peas every day.

PS. Love the pedicure. Have a relaxing time!

Mimi

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I do what is called "quick soak": after sorting and washing the beans, use 2 cups water to every 1 cup beans. Bring to temperature and boil 2 minutes. Remove from heat, cover and let stand for 1 to 2 hours. Drain & rinse, then cover again with twice the water as beans, and add salt and 2TBS olive oil. I use my pressure cooker, so I lock the lid on, bring to full pressure & time for 12 minutes. Once the pressure has dropped naturally, the beans are ready to use.

I made chile with some of the beans today, and served it with corn bread. I accomplished my whole list today... and best of all, Hubbydearest feels special.

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My goals for the week are:

1. To get to bed earlier so I'm not so tired in the morning.
2. To take my Mom to the dentist
3. Work hard at work so the day goes fast and I can go home.
4. Get past tomorrow.
5. Enjoy having my Mom with me again (she will be 88 on Wednesday).
6. Get back to the Amish Market and get some more good stuff!
7. Get past tomorrow.
8. Go out for dinner at least once.
9. Watch Dancing with the Stars!

Not great goals yet, just baby steps.

Pat

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I am with you on numbers 1 and 3. Although so far I am not doing so great on #3. I have #8 covered. My version would read: go out to dinner only once this week. Good luck and enjoy the visit with your mom.

Mimi

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It's been a wild few days .. My girlfriend (Tina) and niece have been hospitalized - busy week-end visiting 2 hospital's .. wore a mask at both hospital's. 37 year old girlfriend had a stroke ..

Goals for this week:

1)Be strong for myself, my sister and Tina, without jeopardizing my sanity or health.

2) be strong and prepared for my 3 chemo cocktail tomorrow - TCH .. first go around -
hell week for VickiSam.

3) Move - walk, exercise 4 to 5 times this week / 15 min's to 30 min's.

4) Reach out to someone in need of help or support - 4 times this week / via
phone, internet, email.

5) Journal all food intake and liquids (3 liters of water daily) to avoid the constipation I expereniced during my first TCH treatment 3 weeks ago.

6) Stop beating myself when I am in a mind fog - due to chemo or lack of sleep.

7) Stop purchasing Parkhurst and Isabella Hats .. I have over 30 hats, with 6 additional
in route to my home. Obsessive, yes.

8) Enjoy life and the love that surrounds me.

VickiSam

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Well, speaking of hats, my goal this week is to actually learn some hat-making. I'm working on a how-to guide on my site for women to make/alter clothing for free or cheap to fit their new in-treatment or post-treatment bodies, and hats are definitely part of that. So... maybe after I learn hat-making and convert it to free/cheap hat-making you can stop buying so many? =P

That guide is pretty much my only goal for the week, I'm pretty lazy.

Great idea to share beginning of the week goals, though, and not just end-of-the-week relief. Very motivating. =D

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After you learn hat-making, you can make some, and VickiSam and I can feed our addiction even more and BUY some from you...? Just call you an Enabler!!

:-) Traci

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I find that interesting that you are making hats. I'm assuming hats with no brims or cloth hats with brims? That'd be really cool. I liked the cloth ones I could throw in the washer when I was on chemo. Now I've got my hair back I still like hats.

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Well, I'm not making them yet, heh. We'll see how successful I am at actually producing anything hat-like. So far in the project I've managed to make (for free) tank tops and skirts. It'll be up at CancerVacation.com later this week, I hope.

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You should totally make the hats, J. That's so awesome. I wish I could do stuff like that. I have a visually creative urge, but I am not visually creative...

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This week is my "good" week before chemo next week, so I have two goals:

- Walk 30 minutes on my lunch hour each day (I haven't had the energy to even leave the office the past two weeks, but started to feel a little stronger over the weekend)

- Eat at least two servings of vegetables and/or fruits each day (I can't look at a vegetable -- raw or cooked -- for about a week after each chemo, so I want to get back to my healthy eating habits this week)

Someone may need to start a 12-step group for VickiSam and me -- I bought two more hats over the weekend! But isn't the first step that I have to *want* to change? :-)

And I must disagree with Pat -- watching Dancing with the Stars is not a goal, it's a necessity!! :-)

Traci

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Try to make it through to Friday without Marmalizing some inept twit.
Make at least one decent meal without setting off the smoke alarms.
Get on the discussion boards more instead of brooding on my own.
and
Laugh myself into a coma at Margo's Jokes (thanks M)

Jxxxxxxxxx

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And get on here! I miss hearing from you.

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I miss seeing your posts so yes, get on here more often. Love ya, Lili

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Just to tempt you two a little more, here is a website that has some beautiful scarves (headwraps). I have actually ordered, let's just say "several", and they are beautiful. I have ordered both the silk and linen. The website is www.4women.com. I'm bad, huh?

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You are evil...EEE-vil.

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Love to shop .. what can I say ...

VickiSam

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4 hats late last night on line .. Chic Options .. Parkhurst, or course. I am blaming my spurge on === pre chemo hormones med. Right ?

If anyone is interest ..

www.chichairoptions.com .. wonderful sale going on - Also, you can name your price on Ebay - chic options have several wonderful hats that I purchased. Parkhurst hats at 60% of list price.

Yes, I may need a 12-step group - very soon. ...

received my 5 1/2 3 chemo cocktail today .. feeling like dog poop! But, I refuse to get down or stressed. Working thru the fatigue.

VickiSam .. aka Parkhurst Hat fanatic :-)))))))))

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I am sorry you are going through all of that, Vicki. I think taking care of yourself will help you to be there for others, so I like #3, 5, 6, and 8 especially. Hang in there. Exercising when you can really helps with the chemo side effects. Have you tried relaxation techniques like meditation, deep breathing, or light yoga? How about accupressure. Good luck.

Mimi

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as I type . . will try to listen and get 'zen' later today. Thanks for the great advise, every thing helps during my chemo HELL week.

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1. Get out of the house and do something
2. Get some exercise
3. Scrub the kitchen cabinets
5. Write down questions for my simulation appointment on Wednesday
6. Make jewelry if my hands are not stiff and numb!
7. Pick up race t shirts and bibs for team

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Good luck on your simulation on Wednesday. It can get quite boring lying there while they measure and adjust, but you want them to be perfect with that radiation beam. Congrats on starting this next part of the journey. It will soon be over, too.

Will you post pictures of some of your jewelry?

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OK, I DID pick out a nice outfit with boots, cordouroys, and scarf today. I DID make it to my cycling class. I DID have a healthy lunch.

I DID NOT however wake up in time to eat breakfast at home. I will have to try again tomorrow. I also have to do laundry tonight. Desperately.

Thanks for writing down your goals. We can do it!!

Mimi

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Thanks for this Mimi~ I truly hope that writing things down and OMG(!!!) posting them in this public forum is truly Positive Peer Pressure that will spur me to actually not just THINKING about doing things good for me, but following through with them! I had another kick in the pants over the weekend...my nieces were taking snapshots all weekend long and now there is truly no denying that I weigh too much! Those pictures spoke 1000 and one words to me! So, my short and long-term goals are:

1: NO ALCOHOL Mon-Friday, and then only 2 glasses (MAXIMUM!) of wine Sat and Sunday. I am so used to relaxing in the evening with a glass or 2 of wine nightly...tasty, but so negative-calorie laden!

2: No excuses about Jazzercise~ even when my exercise buddy can't go ( which is when I usually opt out too) I am GOING!

3: I eat well, but obviously I need to use much better portion-control. Today, I start a food -journal. I bet I will be surprised at how much I eat...even with grazing.

4: Very Important for me...and my most difficult challenge will be not allowing myself to be negatively affected by Reggie's eldest; an ungracious, spoiled, demanding daughter. I need to concentrate on not allowing her to thwart my joy, and to also know that I am ultimately responsible for my own reactions.....

It will be very interesting to see how successful I am~ and I promise to be honest when this Personal Growth Challenge re-convenes! Thanks again, Mimi!

Hugs,
Chen♥

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I know you will do what you set your mind to. It might take a few tries, but that's OK, as long as you are moving forward and learning. I totally, totally second your #1. That's a tough one for me, too. My goal is to keep it at 4 drinks a week, maximum. I am sad to say that I have never really hit that mark. I am not happy with myself about that. Not only does it pack on the calories, but it is not good for cancer either. Last week was my best attempt, but I had the 4 drinks at once. Umm, NOT good. My problem is that I will not drink all week and then think, "Oh, it's Friday, I deserve a cocktail." Which would be fine if I only had one or two.... OK, I am re-energized. Claudia, we will do this. I have two social events this week: Wednesday and Saturday. My goal will be to keep it at 2 drinks per event and none the rest of the week.

#2: The jazzercise. Let's exercise together! If you do your jazzercise classes, I'll go to my cycling.

Remember your mantra when dealing with Reggie's daughter: stronger than not angry at. You taught me that!

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Thanks again, Mimi~ seems we are so on the proverbial same page about alcohol! I must say, I soo enjoy the end of the day wine or cocktail. Guess what's what constitutes a sacrifice, huh? LOL

As far as Reggie's daughter? It isn't so much that I get angry~ but I truly don't like her, and how manipulative and ungrateful she is, especially toward Reggie. I don't SHOW anger, but I must say I often feel very agitated and emotionally stressed. I can actually feel my body tensing and being as she doesn't care if I like her or not...the only person this is affecting is ME! So again, now that it is in writing~ I am making a true concerted effort to be not just physically, but emotionally healthy as well. Whew!!!! :-)

Hugs,
Chen♥

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I am working on my stress reactions. Right now I am trying to take a "yogic" approach. I say to myself "in this moment, can I have nothing by respect and love for this person?" So it's not forever, just for one moment. The idea is that it retrains your mind/body and detoxifies. All that matters is the moment. When I remember to do it, it really helps.

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now so I need to be more focused. My goals for this week are
1. Pack my healthy lunch and snacks the night before (I've gotten out of the routine)so I don't buy "junk".
2. Go to bed by 9:00 (I have to get up by 5:00 to go to work)
3. Not try to catch up on everything at work in a couple days (I was out 10 days, I should give myself enough time.
4. Most important - if I start to feel tired at work, take a break or go home! (Already have my supervisor's permission)

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Yes, #1 is my goal, too. Sometimes if I wait till the morning, I'll run out of time and then buy junk at work. Maybe doing it right after you make dinner, while you're still in the kicthen will help? I'll try that this evening, too.

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I've really cleaned up my act since my BC diagnosis except around exercise. So my goal this week is to:
1. Work out at least 5 times for 30 mins. or more.
2. I will laugh at least once a day.
3. I will write in my gratetude journal 4 times.
4. I will take a long hot bath 2 times this week.
5. I will listen to my guided meditation 5 times this week.

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That inspires me to take one, too, this week. Maybe Wednesday after the cleaning service cleans the bathroom and before the cats go traipsing through it. I should also try my guided meditation. I have Dr. Weil's CD, but have never really tried it....

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~I am washing my woodwork in the entire house, all 4000 sq. feet~WHEW~ wish me luck! Already got the main floor half done. I do this in the fall and in the spring. Lots of louvered doors, other doors, bookcases, trim and such. Not wearing a dress to do it~sweats for me!
Melanie

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If you don't mind I'm going to copy some of what others have said:

1. Mimi - I liked your #2 - pick out outfits that make me look put together in the morning. I didn't get my outfit ready last night and was scrounging around today finding something to wear - not the best thing on the first day back to work.....

2. Exercise every day for 15-30 minutes. I was home for a month and never got to the point of exercising for 30 minutes each day. My regular doctor told me he wants me to exercise an hour a day (yeah, right). This is something I NEED to do for myself.

3. Eat more fruits and veggies and drink lots of water now that I'm back at work. While I was at home I didn't have a problem drinking enough water or eating enough fruits and veggies. I'll have to make sure I take some each day for snacks and lunch so I can get my 10 servings each day.

4. Make a big pot of vegetarian chili for Thursday (a chili cook-off at work that day). I use 6-10 different kinds of beans and soak them overnight. Throw in some red peppers, carrots and celery and presto - yummy chili. I hope I win. P.S. I'm not a vegetarian, just don't like meat in my chili.

5. Finish knitting the shawl I started a year ago. It would be nice to wear it this fall.

Mimi - thanks for starting this thread. It will be a challenge and I look forward to letting everyone know I finished everything on my list.

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Yeah, my doctor told me an hour a day, too. I've never been able to do that. I do have a very vigerous spinning routine (covered in sweat, panting, generally feeling like I will die!) about 3 times a week for 45 minutes. I would like to increase that to 5 times a week for 45 minutes, 1 day a week resistance training with my trainer, and then yoga on Sundays. That's my dream scenario. Still working on it.

Good luck in the chili cook off. I love all of the fall activities we get to do now: make chilis and soups, wear boots, make shawls (or, in my case, buy them.), light fires....

Mimi

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LOL about the wine! Today when Doc asked how much and often I drank, I proudly said only on weekends and only one or two! Hubby stepped in and clarified "bottles", not glasses.
I think this week I will go through my clothes and get fall clothes ready to wear. Then make a list of what I need to purchase. I fit into NOTHING!! Doc keeps telling me no diet right now. They have been telling me this for 4 months!! I only want to lose 10 pounds! So I will also try to increase my exercise. Pammy

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Yeah, I keep going through my closet and boxing up stuff that doesn't fit right now so I don't keep trying it on. That's what inspired my piece on weight gain with treatment and the upcoming "how to alter your clothes for free". It's crazy for people to go on extreme diets (different from eating healthy) when their health is compromised in other ways.

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Ha ha! Yes, that was totally me on the weekends. Now, it is down to glasses again.

So, how is everyone making progress? I woke up early enough to pick out a nice outfit this morning and eat breakfast (although I wasn't enjoying my homemade oatmeal that much). Last night, I packed my lunch, so that was good.

Today, my mini goal is to be productive at work. Oh my god, I was dismal yesterday. Post your progress, ladies, and we can all celebrate on Friday!

Mimi

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Oh Crud~ one day and I am already not doing all I wanted to do! I had a glass of wine with dinner last night...arrrghhhhh, and it was on a Monday! Ok, inhale, exhale, today is a different day to do what's right...

Dinner was healthy and delicious though! I used a lot of the end of the season harvest of veggies from my garden~~peppers, tomatoes, onions, cut into big chunks, drizzled with olive oil,sea salt/pepper, and roasted them in a 400 degree oven for half an hour or so. In the meanwhile, I seasoned boneless skinless chicken breasts with oregano and seared them in a hot skillet with a bit of olive oil till golden brown.
I then added add the the yummy, caramelized, roasted veggies to the browned chicken, added a splash of white wine to the skillet and simmered it for 20 mins while I cooked ( of all things!)BROWN RICE PASTA! It looks like pasta, tastes like pasta, but is much healthier brown rice!
I served the chicken/veggies over the "pasta", and voila! Fast, healthy, good tasting dinner!

We all love veggies, so it was an instant hit!

I go to Jazzercize tonight and ok...NO WINE!

Hugs,
Chen♥

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Don't worry about the one glass of wine. That's only one for the week so far. You can still meet your goal! OK, I am off to cycling class.

PS. The veggie and chicken dinner sounds delicious. I am intrigued by the brown rice pasta. I had regular brown rice yesterday. You say the pasta version is healthier? Hmmm, I'll have to check that out.

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The pasta version is not healthier than Brown Rice, it IS brown rice, so it is healthier than wheat flour "regular" pasta! Sorry I wasn't clear about that!

Hugs,
Chen♥

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I didn't have the nerve to make a dentist appointment so my husband did for me. Now I'll have to go. This is the first time I've gone since we moved and I don't know how a new dentist will handle me. My arm tremors and when I get nervous it really moves. The last time I went to the dentist my leg tremored also. I was like a fish out of water. The dentist there was good and said it didn't bother her. We will see how this one is.

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hmmmm...maybe there are "use as you go" body casts to hold you in place while in the dentist chair? no, I don't suppose there are! I am sure you'll do fine~ let us know how you like the new dentist!

Hugs,
Chen♥

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