Sep 22, 2009 - 1:11 pm
I really hope someone out there can give me and my family some much needed help and advice. On August 24th, my 56 year old father was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. It came as a complete shock to my entire family. We thought he was going into surgery to have a cyst in his pancreas drained and that after that all would be well. Obviously, to our horrifying shock, it was not a cyst, it was a tumor. My dad is now enrolled in a clinical study at the Ohio State University James Cancer Hospital under going daily treatments. The hope is to have surgery mid November. Treatments seem to be going well but there are other hurdles that we cannot seem to cross. One, my dad is so sad and sick that it is breaking my heart. My parents are staying in Columbus with us while his treatments are going on. He is barely talking and eating even less. I know this time is difficult for him so I feel selfish in saying that I am struggling with how he is acting. It is to the point where yesterday I actually felt anger towards him. I know it is wrong but I cannot help it. I am having difficutly seeing him this way because it is not "my dad." We have tried everything to lift his spirits but nothing seems to really be working. Can anyone please give me advice on how or what I should do to try to make this ugly situation somewhat better for him, my mom, and the rest of the family. My next question has to do with getting social security disability. The doctor advised my mom that she should apply for this and she did but was denied. She was told that in order to get the benefits that they would first have to deplete their IRA's as well as retirement. I do not know how this is fair. If they do that how are they (or my mom) supposed to ever retire if they delete their funds at 56? It is frustrating to think that they work hard to earn a living, pay their taxes, and support his country but when they need help they are denied. Can anyone please point us in the right direction to get them approved?