Sep 16, 2009 - 9:51 am
Hi all. I feel I am getting to know you all through this website. God Bless you all for helping & supporting each other and for those fighting this cancer--know that you are in our prayers. My dad is a "young" active, (otherwise) healthy 70 year old. The doctors were surprised at his general health. He is at Duke in his 2nd week of a clinical trial of chemo-radiation combo with what we believe to be a stage 3 adenocarcioma at the e-g junction. The reason I say believe is that there was a questionable lymph node near the liver that could not be biopsied but did not look suspicious on a PET scan.
I was able to be with them at the initial appts at Duke,which was wonderful to be able to support them. They are reluctant to accept help and private people, but was glad I was there. I am about a 8 hour drive away-- I wish I was closer! My dad is doing great so far. I set up a caring bridge website for them which they really enjoy. They are staying close to Duke (3 1/2 hours from their home). I am in contact with them frequently as are my brother & sister.
I have offered to come anytime "just let me know"... but I know they want to "save" that for when they really need the help. I know at a minimum I'd like to be there when he gets the results on the re staging--to support and help interpret (I have a medical-but not cancer background). I also could help if he gets really sick with treatment.
As family members and patients--is it obvious when and how far to reach out to help?