Sep 11, 2009 - 12:44 am
I really don't know where to start. Of course, this is so new to our family. Just two weeks ago, my 36 year old sister's OBGYN broke the news to my sister that they found tumors in her throat while she was under anesthesia during a hysterectomy some six weeks ago. He didn't feel she was mentally stable enough to handle the news then so he waited until her follow up appt to break the news to her just about two weeks ago. Since then, she has been undergoing blood work which indicated all of her red blood cells are destroyed and it has been confirmed that tumors exist on her voice box. Just today she was prescribed six chemo patches which last for a total of six weeks. She is constantly throwing up. She's on a very strict diet. No meat, no cooked vegetables, no caffeine. She can only have protein, fruits, raw vegetables, lots of peanut butter, etc. Her 13 year old daughter is absolutely devastated. My 70 year old mother is asking why God didn't give this to her instead. It's absolutely awful. My sister called me today to ask me to sit down with my niece and try and talk to her about all of this since I'm the strongest emotional member of our family. What they don't realize is away from them I'm as fragile as they are. But I did as she asked and I was able to get through the discussion with my frail niece without crying and tried to show her that strength is what she needed to show her mother now. But I also didn't want to teach her that shadowing her emotions was the right thing either. I also believe that we all need a time to shed our tears. I have no idea what is the right thing to do in this situation. My family has seen heartattacks, strokes, and the like but never cancer. Please, can anyone please help me? Each time my sister talks about this she cries. My mother cries, everyone cries and I'm trying to hold it all together. What do I do? I'm trying now to find locations through the ACS to give Angel a wig when she looses her hair. That's another real problem for her. All of us girls have very long, full blonde hair. It's going to be devastating when Angel begins to lose her hair with the chemo treatment. And the patches appear to be affecting her quickly so it doesn't look like it's going to take very much time to see the effects of it. How long does it take to get a wig? I've got to do what I can to minimize as much of the trauma as I can for her. Thank you so much for whatever advice you can offer. God bless each of you and your family members that are going through cancer and the effects of it. I never knew how much it can turn ones life upside down until I actually began to go through it and I'm only a sister. God bless!