Aug 31, 2009 - 10:28 pm
Hi all, not sure if any of you have advice with my situation. I have a boyfriend whom has been currently diagnosed with Squamous cell Carcinoma with unknown primary, he is only 38 yrs old. He has cancer, stage 4a, in both lypmh nodes in his neck, hasn't started chemo yet. They are going to do a biopsy this week on his lymph node to further try to figure out where the cancer originated. He or I have yet to figure out how to deal with this recent diagnosis. He was active duty and served as a first responder to 911 and served active duty in Afghanistan. I guess I'm looking for advice on how to help him, he has been on a roller coaster. I received advice to look into CSN for benefits for first responders as the local VA believes his cancer is from being stationed down there for over a year and there within the first 24 hours.....I'm not in the military and have known him long enough to know, the first thing that is happening is he thinks the worst and is pushing those close...away.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.