Aug 06, 2009 - 5:16 pm
It is now Thursday August 6, 2009. My father is dying of Stage IV Esophagael Cancer. This cancer he has is aggressive, it came on in a month (may have been longer but nobody saw the signs)and once it was realized that the pain couldn't be controlled by the pain medication he had been prescribed for bad back pain(which we now see the pain was his liver being covered with lesions). Friday August 1, 2009, my father was admitted to Memorial Hospital out here in Colorado Springs, the cancer specialists, and surgeons ran their tests, did their biopsies, and by Tuesday August 4, 2009, my family was told my father has an aggressive form which has spread to his liver, and bascially my father has weeks to live, they could not do anything for him, but help alleviate the pain. If they were to try to operate on the large mass that is in my fathers esophagus he would not make it. If they tried chemoradiation on my father that alone would finish off his liver. He has been moved to a hospice where he will stay for 5 days then move home to finish his days out in the comfort of his home,with his family. As i write this my emotions flare wildly from how quickly this disease has ravaged his body. My father Mel Parnell Turner, Sr. is a 56 year old husband, father, brother, and grandfather,Air Force Retired Veteran after 27 years in the service, he retired an E9 Chief Master Sergeant. My father is a vietnam veteran, he WILL be buried at The Arlington Cemetary for Veterans in Virginia. My father enjoyes riding with the professional bicyclers out here, he has rode in quite a few charitiy rides! My father while in the military helped in a program like "Scared Straight", but it was here in California, as well as here in Colorado. My dad has seen so many things others probably won't see, he is such an amazing daddy, and right now, it hurts to see how in pain he is, how i see deep within his the fact that he wants to stay. Today I saw my father cry for the first time. It is difficult to remain emotionally strong right now. My mom is doing okay, she is hurting, but with our faith i know this is a test on that. We do believe in miracles, however we do know that whatever he has in store for us, he will remain on his path. Right now I am desperate for anymore information, I am in such disbelief of all of this. I am 31 and I have 3 other siblings, as well as a nephew. The strength and many prayers would help, and i hope help alleviate the pain of what is happening. Please tell me how to help him be more compfortable with this it is affesting everyone. I do thank you so much.