Jul 04, 2009 - 12:36 am
Hi. This is my first post. I'm just blown away - cancer has never touched my life & now within a matter of days it's destroying it. On Teusday I learned that my boyfriend has liver cancer and has been given 6 months to a year to live. On Wednesday my mom had a mastectomy for what was supposed to be stage one breast cancer, however they found it in the lymph nodes as well. My focus on this post is with the boyfriend, as my mom is out of state and has a great support network with my stepfather and young sister.
A little background... We've been together for only a month and a half. He is a Vietnam vet with pretty severe PTSD. He's beaten a cancerous tumor in his spinal cord from Agent Orange about 10 years ago. Ever since we met we've been drawn together as if by gravity, but since getting this diagnosis he seems to be trying to push me away. Hard. I am so in love with him and worry because he has no one else. He already has an awful time with trust and intimacy but we seemed to be making fantastic progress until this. I get the impression that he's trying not to upset me, but I feel like I'm going to lose him twice. I work for him too and he's every inch the workaholic he ever was. All I know about his illness other than the above information is that he has an appointment at the Cleveland Clinic on July 13th. Anyone have any advice for me?