May 25, 2009 - 9:38 am
Tom is everything to me. We met in a rehab/treatment center (he was there for DUI and I was there to clean up from I-V drug use addiction).....they told us we would never stay together. That was 3 kids and 15 years ago.
He has been my strength, my joy, my world for all these years...thru my many relapses and a mental breakdown, attempted suicide, fibromyalsia diagnosis (brought on by previous drug abuse according to my doc, and then in Sept 08 I had spinal fusion surgery for two herniated disks (I know, I'm a mess), and too many other HUGE hurdles to mention here....we have made it through and are now homeschooling our children, own a tree service, and are living the american dream............and then the phone call came
The lump in his neck came up after a tooth abcess was removed. It shrunk and then came back so after a month of this and 4 to 5 rounds of antibiotics we finally had a biopsy. At first the ENT (Dr Witherspoon....happens to be Reese Witherspoons father...go figure) said there is nothing to worry about...shouldnt be cancer, but we need to spend some money on Tom's teeth and gums before something worse happens. At the follow up from surgery, the pathology results came in and everything looked great...all negative for cancer...we were just waiting for 2 more specimens but that was pretty much routine...nothing to worry about.
Now we know he has stage IV Nasopharyngeal undifferentiated squamous cell carcinoma (dont know if its A or B but I printed a picture for the doctor to circle for me where the cancer is and to write at the top what the T- N- M- is....couldnt get her to be specific so I figured this way she would have to be)
Thursday we had our first round of Chemo. 132mg of Taxol and 350mg of Carboplatin which will be given 1x a week for 9 weeks and then 7 weeks of radiation along with half the dose of chemo that he is getting now.
We have switched roles now it seems. I am now taking care of him instead of the other way around. He gets grumpy, but we are closer than ever (if thats even possible) and my worse fears just keep creeping up every day it seems......
how will I take care of the boys
I know there are a lot of you on here that have gone through what he is going through and some who have gone through what I am going through....any advice, prayers, support, hope, whatever you can offer will be taken to heart.
Thanks for reading the eternal post.
Kelly Tumbaridis from TN