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I lost my best friend

lk1960
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Joined: Jan 2009

My husband Steve and I were married for almost 24 years. He died 11 days ago from esophageal/stomach cancer that spread to his liver. We have 5 great kids . four of whom are teenagers and still live at home. It is tough being mom and dad to them , but I also have a lot of support. I am still getting sympathy cards in the mail everyday from both of our coworkers , relatives, and friends. I am still numb right now. I lost my oldest sister in July, my mother -in-law in March and my parents are in their 80's and in poor health.I am thankful that my husband passed at home surrounded by family. I know the summer will be hard because I teach school and will not be working,and when school is out I will have more time to think and it will be even harded. I pray every day even when I don't feel like it for the strength to keep going on. Lisa

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angelsbaby
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Joined: May 2008

Lost my husband 36 days ago colon cancer I miss him but i take one step at a time that is hard enough right now

michelle

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angelsbaby
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again

MICHELLE

poopsiegal
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Joined: Jul 2009

TO YOU AND YOUR FAMILY AND THE CHILDREN ALL WE SAY IS TAKE IT ONEDAY AT A TIME AND THE PAIN WILL EASE BUT YOU WILL NEVER BE ALL CRIED OUT WHEN WE LOSE A LOVE ONE ITS AS THOUGH WE LOST OUR SELF BUT WE HAVE TO REMBER THEY R AT PEACE NO MORE PAIN AND THATS WHAT WE PULL OURSELF UP WITH YES WE MISS THEM BUT FOR THEM TO HAVE STAYED HOW MANY MORE PAINFUL DAYS AND NIGHTS WOULD THEY HAVE HAD. U CRY WHEN U NEED TO CRYING IS A HEALER BUT U NEVER FOLD HE WOULDNT WANT YOU TO DO THAT I AM SURE THERE WAS A SPECIAL SAYING HE WOULD TELL YOU AS YOU ALL GREW TOGETHER U SAY IT TO YOURSELF AND ONE DAY U WILL SMILE STAND STRONG HES IN A BETTER PLACE NOW HES AT PEACE.
WE STAND IN UNITY WE FIGHT IN UNITY WE WIN IN UNITY GOD BLESS

mrbfer2810
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Joined: May 2009

I completely understand - I lost my husband in March of 2008 and I have to tell you that the first few months of grieving you will just feel completely numb. Then it's like a roller coaster. You can feel ok (never good) one moment and drowning in a puddle of tears the next. It's been over a year for me now and I still have really bad days. Being mom and dad to my two children has not been easy and having to face challenges I never imagined for myself has not been an enjoyable experience either. But when I look back at how I was feeling a year ago, I can see that I have improved.

One thing that I strongly suggest is grief counseling. One on one counseling with the "right" counselor will help you through. I don't think I'd be where I am today if I hadn't consistently gone through counseling. It helped me realize that everything I was going through was normal and my counselor was able to explain the steps to grieving that I needed to get through before I would start to feel somewhat "normal" again (whatever that is).

I wish you luck and know that so many people will be there to support you. You certainly will know who your true friends are now and you will cherish them forever.

I'll be thinking about you.

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