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WILL THIS HURT EVER GO AWAY?

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MR_SAD
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It has bee almost 8 weeks since I lost my My Wife, My Love, My Best Friend. I thought the loss was starting to ease up, But I find myself Missing Cathy more and more each day. My friends have been very supportive along with all the wonderful friends I have meet here on the Site. Today has been extremly difficult to hold back my Emotions. Will it ever get any easier? I feel so mad at everything for stealing my Life from me. I know We had 25 great years, but I wanted 25 more years to grow old with someone I loved with all my heart. I hate this lonlyness I feel ever day. It just feels like my life will never be the Same. I really don't know what to do. I don't know what to do to make this any easier. Some of you that I have became so close to and are not doing so well make me feel like I am just going to lose you also. I find my self really worring about all of you when I don't see a post or response. It makes me so mad at this terrible thing called "CANCER" It is just not Fair for something so terrible to happen to anyone. All of You have became such special people. I just want to feel happy again, but I feel that will never happen. My life has been robbed from me. Thanks to all of you for listening while I just get this out.
Your Friend
Floyd

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terato
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Joined: Apr 2002

Floyd,

The loss of a love of 25 years cannot be gotten over in 8 weeks, 8 months, or even 8 years. It would be like trying to "get over" losing an arm or a leg, Cathy is an important part of you and she will probably remain there, to some degree, forever. She sounds like she would want you to find peace of mind, which will probably come, eventually. Just give yourself time to grieve, not getting impatient with yourself if the process takes longer than you would like. It takes as long as it takes.

Love and Courage!

Rick

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hunpot
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MY POOR FLLOYD,
Cathy is watching, It is cvery hard to go on with life after the loss. YOu heart feels empty and you think its not fair that you can live but you have to try and remember cathy wants you to be happy and to try and live life to the fullest. Try to do things for the both of you as if she was here try to think of it as she would want this for you both when you are doing something.
You may want to think about getting involved with a support group in your area i know you feel comfort in talking with us here in the site but if you had people in your area that have gone through the same it may bring comfort to you to see and know others are close by in your shoes. They may have some opinions and advise as to how to help in your area. When i started group with hospice has made me feel better and given me some ways to think and go on each day and try not to be sad and angry. My loneliness has gotten better i still feel the loss and am sad but have not cried as much it seems to be lessening some. Ill always have the loss and loneliness and emptiness that will never go away but it gets less each day and i try to remember her at certain times each day that way it doesnt effect me all day (lessen taught in group) set time for remembrance or feeling loss.
We are hear for you and want you to be happy in time that will come. Remember her smile and laughter you will always have that.
your friend
tracy

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MR_SAD
Posts: 91
Joined: Nov 2008

Without great friends like you guys this would be unbearable. Thanks for listening and your kind words of support. I know that Cathy will always have my heart. I feel much better today. Maybe I will check out a support group. It probably would help to have someone close by to talk with. Thanks for your advice.
Your friend
Floyd

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MR_SAD
Posts: 91
Joined: Nov 2008

Rick I hope This find you doing well. Sorry for all of my rant and rave yesterday, It was a very tough day for me. Some days with all I have to do to Try and keep up with the boys is just to much to handle. I am starting to give "How to do Laundry classes" to both of them. I feel much better today Work was real busy and the Site has been a great help. It really helps to have friends that understand. Thanks buddy!
Your friend
Floyd

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