Cancer Survivors Network

Patricia
There are going to be times when your husband is going to take all of his furstrations and anger out on you. You are the one that is there for him. You must understand he is dying. I can't imagine what that would be like. When my wife got so sick towards the end she said things to me that were so hurtful that I some times had to just go out on my back porch take a deep breath and relize that this was the Cancer talking and not the Love of my life. She was always such a joy to be around. When someone is nearing the end of life they react in ways we really find hard to understand. Just know it is not at you but this terrible thing called CANCER. We as CareGivers must endure some of the most difficult times anyone could expect to go thru for the ones we Love. Just stop, walk away if you need to and take a break. There would be times that Cathy just needed some time alone, and a few minutes later she would not even rember what she had said to me. I Finally realized that if I would just leave the room when she would get so angry it would soon pass and she would be calling for me to come back in the room. We spent the last 3 months of her life together 24/7 and there were some very Difficult times when I would just have to take a moment to re-group and rember that deep heartfelt LOVE we both shared for so many years. This is a most difficult time for you, all of us here on this site know your Pain. Alot of us have been down your Road and I wish you did not have to go thru this, but some times Life throws us a hard one and that is were you are now. We are here to help in any way we can. If you would Like, We have a Care Giver Chat in Room #2 on tuesday nights at 7:00 pm Eastern time. It is a good place to laugh, cry and forget for just a moment this tough road we are all going down.
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Floyd