hi anyone
can anyone give me some advice my mum has told me she has non small cell lung cancer i want to know if you can beat this , i what to talk to people who have and are going through the same thing .she's not told me a lot cause i've not asked all i know is that they can not remove it with surgery shes having cemo and radio therapy but doctors what to rescan her on tuesday before cemo starts and we don't know why ,i'm finding this very difficult to talk about just want some help and advice to be strong for her and me
Joined: Apr 2009
I haven't had first hand experience with this particular disease but I have with cancer in general. Cancer is very much beatable! Miracles do happen, remember that. Hug her. Tell her you love her of course and state very firmly that you will be there. Sometimes just knowing she has someone to hug her and love her during the highs and the lows can help more than you think. Make mom dates. As we get older and start to branch out from our parents they get very lonely and feel forgotten. My moms been feeling this since I've moved to college and been mostly independent with my own job and what have you. So to make up for it I invite her to go to the movies on my night off or find stuff like free plays to go to or even just lunch in between work and classes. She appreciates them and I know your mom will too. If you live farther away send care packages. Snail mail is becoming more outdated and so sending a tangible package is even more meaningful than it used to be. Cards work as well. If you're walking through wal mart swing by the cards and just pick up a thank you or thinking of you card and send it! Write a nice long something in there. A found memory of you two that'll make her smile. Smiling and laughing relieves stress and calms the blood pressure it's true so try to make her smile and laugh as often as possible.
Overall just listen and ask questions unless she doesn't really want to talk about which you should still try a few days later when the time is right. Dealing with doctors is difficult and can be really confusing. I get so lost with 4 syllable words and I'm and english major! I'm also a Mission Education chair with my Relay here and know of programs like I Can Cope that is an actual class that is informative and dispels the myths of cancer. Try finding one of those in your area to attend, it's free!
I hope this helped. I kind of rambled... Good luck! I enjoy talking so feel free to reply here or with a message.
Joined: Feb 2007
Bbbear88. I am a father of three daughters that did much of what you described in your post. When I had cancer it was those little letters that meant so much that they would bring tears to my eyes. 6 years out I still have them in a drawer in my bedroom. You are a very caring young woman and your parents must be quite proud of you. Slickwilly
Joined: Feb 2008
Cancer can be beat. Sometimes it takes time. I have heard of people bein