Jan 17, 2009 - 8:56 pm
My wife of 25 years, age 46, (I am 56)is getting treatment for terminal colon and liver cancer. We have 2 grandkids, ages 8 and 10, that we have custody of. My wife has chosen to go stay with folks 900 miles away rather than stay here. The hospital where she recieves treatment is about 10 hours from our home and 8 hours from her folks. She says she doesn't want to be a burden with me doing the Mr.Mom thing, working, keeping house, cooking, washing, etc. I have seen here once for a week over the last three months. Since this is an "all about her" time, I have not said anything, just given my full support for whatever she wants. She told me I just had to "cowboy up." The kids are having some problems with this, not to mention me, too. I'm contemplating early retirement and moving there, even though it is not a financially sound thing to do. I just want to be near her. It doesn't look like she'll be coming home anytime soon. Retire and move, stay and just "cowboy up, what? I know she misses us terribly and wants to be here. I'm getting pretty darn depressed over this but don't know what to do.