Hello. I am new to this site, but I am reaching out as a caregiver because my husband has cancer. We have been married 12 years and our life has been wonderful.
My husband was diagnosed in Oct 2007 with ocular melanoma with spread to the liver/spleen/brain. He has been going through radiation and chemo treatments ever since. Every day is a new thing either it gets better or it doesn't. My husbands cancer has spread very aggressively the past few months. In December 2008 they told my husband he has 6-12 months to live. This has really ticked me off because I feel they have stolen the hope from him and from our family. My husband now just thinks about that and he is not living his life. He is going on short term disability with work and I feel he is giving up. We have a 6 1/2 year old daughter who loves her daddy dearly. Where do I go from here? What do I do for him? I don't know what to say or how to help him. Some days I feel like I need to give him tough love because he can't just give up. Other days I get so tired of fighting. I want our lives to be normal again in some sense, I am just tired of the every day struggle with this disease. Any suggestions out there?