I have posted a few times on family issues and am now in a very upsetting situation. I love my kids dearly and would do anything on Earth for them, but I'm at the end of my rope with my daughter right now and don't know what to do anymore.I hope one of you has some advice that I can use to get through current situation; I'll explain-
My 20 year old daughter moved home about 4 months ago after a failed relationship and we gave her all the love and support that we could.Well, she ended up seeing another guy and got PG; ever since then, the hormones have made her an emotional time-bomb; she constantly screams at all of us, will not help with any chores and is taking so much time off work ("she's soo stressed!")that her boss called to tell us that she would be terminated.
I have to say, I lost it! I told her that if she didn't start behaving like an adult, quit screaming at everyone and help out a little more, that she should consider other living arrangements. Her response was to scream even more, and tell me that she is trying her hardest to deal with the stress and living with the rest of us was just making it worse. Excuse me? I am chopped to hell, sick as a dog and she's stressed? Maybe I'm taking this too personally ( I know hormones are whacko during pregnancy; been there), but I am at the end of my rope!
My husband told her to quit yelling at me, and if she couldn't get along with all of us, she should leave. Well, that's what she did. Now, I feel guilty, angry and afraid of what she's going to do next.My husband, son and I have done so much to help her and I don't know why I am feeling so responsible and conflicted.Is the cancer making me feel like I have to fix everything? I try to ignore the little things since DX, but this is not little anymore.
So, if anybody has any advice, I could sure use it. I'm running out of kleenex and a good cry just doesn't seem to be the answer today.
Thanks for listening,
P.S., Sorry for ranting, just feeling so overwhelmed.