need to vent

It is sooooo hard to complain I have truely been blessed. I went in to surgery to remove what we thought was a fiboris tumor in my lower left lung, this was after 7 xrays 3 ct scans 2 biopsys 1 colapsed lung - that all came back as inconculsive. Mind you the original complaint to the doc was a bad cold coughing up small amounts of blood sporaticly, I was also a heavy smoker for many years. He never checked for cancer!? On Apil 1st 2008 I was diagnosed w/Lung Cancer - I'm only 41 yrs old (as of last week) Mucinus Adenocarcinoma of the Lung, what words to hear on April Fools day!! Fortunately the tumor and several lymph nodes were removed and 2 wks later the PET scan came back negative for anymore. I am taking 5 rounds of chemo as a preventative. I just had my 3rd dose today feeling a little tired, so I hope I'm making sense and spelling correctly. anyway back to the venting - I have long since given up on having any kind of relationship w/my mother long long long story, I did however call to tell her I had cancer (first contact in about a year) no quilt trip just letting her know that everything was okay but that I did have cancer.I didn't want her to hear it from my grandpa her dad. 3 days later I got a registered letter from stepdad #10 (told you long long long story) telling my that if I called, wrote or in any other way tried to contact my mother I would he would file a restraining order against me and the rest of her family. Well that was fine like I said I had long given up my mother. Here's the shocker, she called me yesterday. The first thing I said is she is not allowed to contact me do to the letter, she said she had no idea and to just ignore it, she siad she has been thinking about me since last week was my birthday and wanted to come see me. Here again she has had no contact with my family for over a year, including being invited for a 5 generation photo w/her father and my grandson. It would have been 5 generations great great grandpa, great grandma, grandma, mom, baby, no charge- I paid - no response. She had been sent pictures and many invites to come see her greatgrandson all no response. She has been invited to my oldest daughter & her husband home on numerous occassions so that I would not be there and she could she the baby again no response. During the conversation we had she asked about the baby who is now 16 mths old I said he was fine and that she should have rec'd numerous pictures she said she had but they had stoped I again told her about the letter. She went on to ask about why she didn't receive an inventation to my youngest daughters graduation I told her again about the letter and that we only ordered a few and didn't see the point in mailing her one she got upset and cried. Said she just wanted to come see me. I just don't know what to do. My friends and daughters tell me to tell her no, my physco doc said to follow my heart I just can't deal w/her issues while I'm dealy with everything else - my husband is tried of my complaing/whining - any ideas