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coping after 1 year
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May 29, 2008 - 7:06 pm
It has been 1 year 2 months and 1 day since I lost my soul mate for life. I have tryed the group sessions, not for me. The chat room was my salvation. It seems to be getting harder instead of better and I don't know how to deal with the loss anymore. I remember him in his last days. Not like he was throughout our 34 years together. How do you go on? I'm at a loss!!! Any suggestions from anyone going through the same thing. |
Joined: Nov 2007
thank you soooo much. i knew my angels were out there i just got lost from them. you are one of them. i use my name backwards so if you see me there you'll know who i am. thanks again
Joined: May 2007
I am too coping with a loss of my sister I had the privilege to be with her for 33 years, I agree with you as time passes the reality sets in and it gets much harder, I too struggle to forget the last days and try to remember the good times but the last days always creep in. I don't have an answer on how to cope but I just wanted you to know you are not alone. I have created a memorial/picture frame of mine and my sisters life together, although it tears me apart to look at it sometimes, I also hope she can see I have done that and every day I go to that frame and say Hi and tell her the day's news, sad maybe - but somehow it helps me cope and she feels closer too me, Try it you never know, but never doubt you are alone there will always be someone to help.
Joined: Nov 2007
I have our last family picture hanging to where I see it every morning when I wake up. I look at it and just don't remember that person. People that I know who have lost their partner to cancer has said it gets better after time. To me it is getting harder and harder everyday. Even my mom says it gets better, but I lost my dad to a heart attack, real fast. He walked in the house and passed. So it is different even for my mom. I watched my husband slowly die and couldn't do anything about it. I think that the worse part is everytime I asked him what am I gonna do when your gone he would just say " I LOVE YOU". I guess he didn't know either. Thanks for your response. It's good to know that there are people who are dealing with the past present issue as I am. I just don't know how to remember the past, or if I ever will. I can't even tool at the photo albums yet. Too hard. Guess as time passes I will, just not now. Be at Peace
Joined: Sep 2006
Very nice, Za!
Take care, my friend.
Joe
Joined: Nov 2007
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