Mar 17, 2008 - 10:55 pm
My name is Jason and my girlfriend and love of my life was diagnosed with kidney cancer 4 months ago. It is the 2nd time. It has spread to her Adrenal glands and the prognosis wasn't good. They told her unless they find a miracle cure it's over. They wouldn't tell her how long. She is and has been on experimental trial meds. They did say that surgery to remove the bad kidney and chemo were an option but where she is right now it's not. I'm trying to get her to move with me and be able to go to Kansas University Medical Center here in Kansas City.
I know she can beat this, but sometimes I think she gets really scared and thinks about giving up. She on occasions thinks it's cruel or hurtful to me to stay together. We have planned to get married before she gets to the bad parts if it comes to that. It is very hard to not think about the finality of it all. At the same time every moment with her is and would be more than I could ask for from anyone else. I want her to fight like I know she can but I also know what I am asking if she does and the treatment alone could do her in. She is such a beautiful person inside and out. I know she is my true soulmate and I wouldn't want to be with anyone else as long as I live.
I need some advice on what to do. Should I be the rock and have her fight the good fight even though she may not want to? Or do what she wishes and if she wishes to give up let her? She has beaten cancer before I know she can do it again. Any advice would help