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Fiance dealing with cancer survivors family!
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Jul 14, 2007 - 2:43 am
My 31yr old fiance was diagnosed with a grade III anaplastic astrocytoma in Feb 06. Ever since then his parents have seemed to baby him every step of the way. In some ways it has hindered his recovery process. I have offered my help and my advice b/c I am an RN to them, after all this is the man I am suppose to marry and his parents dont seem to want any of my help and they even treat me like a child. They have the mentality that they are his parents and they know whats best for him which by the way is BS! Not to mention that my fiance was in a major car accident this past where he broke both of his legs and within the last 3 weeks he has had brain surgery again - which resulted in good news. Anyhow, I was wondering how are all the other significant others dealing with their loved ones family?!?! And are mine the only warped ones out there?!?! Has anyone been to counseling/ support groups and how has it helped?!?! I really, really look forward to hearing from anyone with good advice!!!! |
Joined: Apr 2002
Melissa,
These future in-laws seem like trouble. Be grateful you know this now. Try to move towards counseling as a couple understanding that your fiance may not be strong enough to repel his parents' influence. If the situation does not improve, even when your fiance gets better, cut your losses and move on.
Love and Courage!
Rick
Joined: May 2003
Does your fiance welcome the attention from his parents? That's the main question. If he likes it, there is not much you can do about that. I think it is up to him to let his parents know that he wants you to be there and that you are an important part of his life.
I have kids so I understand how a parent may worry. To be there and take care of your child is good but not i