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brother newly diagnoised
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Jul 11, 2007 - 6:14 pm
My brother(age 49) was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer yesterday after a couple of weeks worth of tests. He came to tell our parents & the rest of our family about it. He is married with a 7yr old. He is upset but has everything all planned out- funeral, ect. He is still smoking and says the dr said it didn't matter at this point. He did agree to some radition because he has 3 spots on his brain and it is effecting his muscle control. He also agreed to 2 rounds of chemo b/c he can't hardly talk due to the tumor pressing on his voice box. I know their is no "normal" but I just feel like he should be saying he is going to fight and look into tx options ect. I don't know what to say, is it wrong to encourage him to hope? |
Joined: Sep 2003
Dear Sister:
I would encourage your brother to do both chemo and radiation. I have seen people on this site that were diagnosed with Stage IV and they are years out from diagnosis. Try to talk your brother into not giving up at this point.
I had stage I in 2005. Surgery, then chemo and I am 26 months cancer free.
God bless you and your brother.
Madelyn
Joined: Jan 2004
At age 67, I was diagnosed with nsclc, stage 3a. I was "inoperable/incurable". After chemo, radiation and surgery, I'm still here, six years (+) later, cancer free and living large!
If there's a way to convince your brother to fight, then give it a try. BUT, don't fall into the trap of blaming yourself if he won't try. Just do your best to convince him to fight.
Best wishes and prayers.
Ernie