CSN Login
Members Online: 9

the embarassing cancer...

njprncss4216
Posts: 11
Joined: Mar 2006

The night I was diagnosed with vulvar cancer and found out I would need surgery within the week I e-mailed a few friends at work telling them my diagnosis in clinical terms and the needed surgical treatment.

Two days later the director called both my manager and myself into her office. I was sternly, verbally reprimanded by our director.
According to her I gave TOO MUCH personal information. In addition I was told I showed a complete lack of judgement and professionalism. The words labia and vulva in particular were pointed out as being both inappropriate and offensive! I was dumbfounded! Initially I thought someone was offended by my prayer request.

I was told that 'it' was private; and to keep it that way. I considered my e-mail to be sort of a PSA in addition to explaining my upcoming absence to people I often collaborate with. It never occurred to me people wouldn't be able to look me in the eye without envisioning my lopsided labia. Some even considered it to be pornographic in nature. I guess I should have said I have a boo-boo on my hoo-hoo and let people inquire further if interested.

Has anyone else experienced this type of silly reaction in the workplace?

njprncss4216
Pleasure Palace - closed for repairs :-)

fightforit
Posts: 11
Joined: Feb 2006

What suprised me the most was that alot of women did not even know the term vulva. I feel for you girl. That was so uncalled for. We can talk about sex toys and things that vibrate, but forgive us if we have a cancer in an area unfamiliar to most. I own my own business and everyone saw that i was not "feeling well" questions came out. My husband "bless him" did not know what or how to explain. I told him, "If they want to know, then tell them to talk to me."
Some asked and I told. I have been lucky, they listened and prayed for me and understood. The community I am in did nothing but give me total support. If you need to talk or just want to vent e-mail me at wdriggers@comcast.net. In my opinion that just goes to show how ignorant society can be.
Good luck
Wendy

gutbuster's picture
gutbuster
Posts: 1
Joined: Jan 2006

My wife's work automagically blocks any email that contains "offensive" words. She had to use "public" email to discuss her situation with her work friends.
.
We decided that it was her company's way of dealing with a potentially litiginous population, and we did not take it personally.
.
I'm just sorry that not more of her "friends" have contacted her since she had to quit work.
.
Thanks for bringing up the subject.

Subscribe with RSS
About Cancer Society

The content on this site is for informational purposes only. It is not a substitute for professional medical advice. Do not use this information to diagnose or treat a health problem or disease without consulting with a qualified healthcare provider. Please consult your healthcare provider with any questions or concerns you may have regarding your condition. Use of this online service is subject to the disclaimer and the terms and conditions.

Copyright 2000-2014 © Cancer Survivors Network