Oct 15, 2005 - 9:11 pm
One of my best friends *just* found out he has lymphoma (probably Hodgkins, although it hasn't yet been confirmed). He took it hard.
I was hoping people here might be able to give me advice on things I can do to support him through this as a friend. What types of things might he need but be hesitant to ask for? What are the *wrong* things to do/say? etc.
If it matters, he's 29 years old and is extremely smart. He has already done a bunch of research and knows the ins and outs of lymphoma. But he's still very stressed out by the potential road that he knows is ahead. (He also is very uncomfortable around doctors and in hospitals, and doesn't have very good insuraance, all of which make things worse.)
Personally I'm very worried that they didn't catch it soon enough, as he's had symptoms (night sweats, cough and weight loss) for over 2 years and what finally prompted him to get checked is that he's been falling down due to numbness in his leg. (But the mass/tumor they found came in a chest xray and CT scan. They haven't imaged his brain yet, as far as I know.)
Anyway, any advice people here could give me on how best to be a good friend to him would be much appreciated.