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Mar 20, 2005 - 7:04 pm
My girlfriend and I are 5 months into our situation. She has lung cancer... with a few spots outside the lung, her liver and spleen. She is 53 years old. Otherwise healthy, did not smoke. We fish, have horses... in general very active. She has an 83 year old mother that lives not too far away. A son who is closer but less than no help at all. My family is all light years away. No help readily available. My work has been generous with time off so I can take care of her. I have some medical background and am capable and willing to take care of her. We had been talking of marriage prior to the diagnosis. We still are. I am a little overwhelmed with not only the present , but prospects of the future. I don't really know what questions I want to ask. I don't know where to go. The only thing I am sure of is that I will be there for her no matter what happens. I am really the only one available (who loves her) that can take care of her. But I also have to take care of myself. |
Joined: Mar 2005
Kind of the same, but not. My MOm is fighting colorectal cancer with met to liver, liver nodes and spots on lungs. Chemo is terrible.... I hate what this has done to her...the weight lose, the lack of energy...the helplessness...I am the only child. We do have a lot of friends and family who offer to help, but Mom really won't let many help because of her dignity and pride. She has always been in control of her life, and at 50, she isn't and can't take it. I cook for her, clean, do some shopping, take her to doc appt. ect....Not all by myself at all, my dad takes care of most of the duties. I do know that ACS has volunteers who take people to and from doc. visits. You might check out local chapter....also some big churches offer assistance. Hope some of this helps.Dee
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