I'm 43...my beloved with Renal Cell Carcinoma is 56. We met 13 months ago after both suffering tragic losses. He, his wife of 34 years, me, my partner of 12 years.(neither loss was due to cancer). He was very open about his cancer when we met, never hiding anything. I fell in love with him very quickly. He became a very bright light in my life,
Since Xmas 2004 I noticed a change in him...tried to talk about it, but he began distancing himself from me.
I had a very stressful year...loss of a partner, financial worries, loss of my job, selling my home and moving in w/ elderly parents. I will not lie, my emotions were spiraling downward.
He has told me he needs time...I have obliged.
I'm so worried about him and I miss my friend.
I have researched many cancer sites and have decided he probably felt overwhelmed with my drama as he was dealing with life and death himself.
I have soul searched and have decided as awful as all my issues were for the past year, they certainly pale in comparison to his cancer.
I really want him back. I love him and I want to spend the rest of my life with him, no matter how long that will be.
Any advice to someone who's new at this? My heart is breaking.