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Can't get over throughts of having cancer

ANNAE
Posts: 11
Joined: Aug 2004

Hi, I live in Duarte, Ca. Would like to talk or meet with those in area. Hard to find a support group for colon cancer. I can't stop thinking of the cancer it haunts me day and night. Does anyone have any suggestions?

My prays go out to all of you.

Anna

bsrules
Posts: 296
Joined: Mar 2004

Hello!! This site is the best support group around!! My husband was diagnosed with colon/rectal cancer with 60% liver involvement. I found this site in Oct.03 and the special people here have been very helpful and supportive to us and I know that they can help you!! I don't know what I would of done if I hadn't found such a caring and supportive group of people!! We live on the East Coast in NJ. You are welcome to email me at bsrules@earthlink.net or just post here and people will help you get through this!!! My prayers are with you!!! Sue

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alihamilton
Posts: 344
Joined: Jan 2004

I agree....it has helped me so much to post and read these boards...learning how other people cope gives one strength. I can understand how you cannot stop thinking about having cancer. My husband was diagnosed with Stage 111 last year July and has just recently been told that, at the moment, there is no cancer. Our lives have changed forever...to the outside world, I must look the same as ever but my inner world has become dictated by the illness. It rules our plans, short and long term, it is reality! But it can also change one's values...small issues are no longer important. One appreciates life more than ever before. The down times stick in one's memory but the good moments also remain. I have no idea what the future holds but I try to prepare myself for anything. It is not what happens to us in life that matters...it is how we deal with it. I see it all as a test.Do use the boards for support but also try and continue with your interests and do not let your illness consume you....you are much more than your illness.

All the best!

Alison

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spongebob
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Joined: Apr 2003

Hi, Annae -

Have you tried contacting your local American Cancer Society chapter office? They usually have tons of information on local support groups. I'm not sure where Duarte is, but I'd imagine there is an ACS Chapter office within an hour of you. I have found several CC groups at local hospitals. You might try contacting a couple of the local hospitals public information/relations offices and checking if they have a program.

Are you a survivor or a caregiver or just someone whose life has been touched by CC? As a survivor, I can tell you that the cancer is always in the back of my mind. But I try to keep it there. Just like the possibility thta I will get hit by a bus is in the back of my mind. My cancer is genetic so, even though I am in remission, I still have "cancer" in my opinion. And I believe it will eventually come back. So what do I do? I have basically two choices: (1) I crawl inside my co**** and wait for it to come back and miss out on all the living I could be doing right now while I'm not sick or (2) I can get my butt out there and live life to the fullest so that if it does come back and if I should happen to loose the fight, at least I will have had a full-filled life with innumerable experiences and have had an opportunity to touch so many people.

Your choice. Just remember; it could come tomorrow - but then again, so could that darn bus.

Choose life and live it!

- SpongeBob

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nanuk
Posts: 1363
Joined: Dec 2003

Anna: You are indeed fortunate to live in Duarte; The City Of Hope is one of the best comprehensive
cancer centers in California..see (http://www.cityofhope.org/) they can help you with support group
and any other information needed. Bud

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ramona41
Posts: 72
Joined: Jul 2004

not sure where your town is. I am inthe santa rosa area. and havent looked for a group yet. but amthinking thats not a bad idea. this place is the best online place ihave found. learned more here than from doctors and handouts they gave me. but good luck in your search i may do the same.. sending you good thoughts and prayers..ramona41

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kangatoo
Posts: 2115
Joined: Feb 2004

AMEN Bob!!!
Hiya Anna--I am happy to tell you that I am 4 months in remission--the other details about my cancer I forget. Well, not really but we all try to forget the past and get on with living and try to be of some help to our wonderfull friends here.
I am in Australia so can't help with a cancer group--but what I can tell you is that you are not alone. Whether a patient or carer, the result is the same--this is not a disease easily forgotten and the nightmare is with us all.In our own way we try very hard to deal with it but you must be able top call on support.Please return Anna and let us know some details--thereis nuch love/support/concern here.The answers from the others in this post attest to that.
Cancer will change your life an your attitude--I like Alison's reply
"small issues are not important"----each and every day is important to me, and so are my friends here.
Take care Anna and do come back.----luv n huggs --kanga n Jen

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