Nov 10, 2003 - 6:10 pm
And the battle continues. Appointments are lined up, I have undergone a PET scan, John Hopkins is reviewing my case, and I continue to research. Unfortunately, this turn of events has impacted everyone aroud me - ESPECIALLY my mom. She is crying all the time and I'm REALLY concerned. To further understand the situation, I have to supply some history. In 1991, my father was diagnosed with Chronic Lymphocitic Leukemia. This too came as quite a shock because he was young, ate well and was a gym teacher. After a lenghthy battle with the disease, he died in 1997. And now, not even 5 years later, my family is struck again with cancer. My mom is a single mother, taking care of an aging parent (my grandmother is 91), looking after a very demanding son, working a full-time job and she has me to worry about! I am concerned that she is overdoing it and stressing too much. I'm very worried that something is going to happen to her and it will be all my fault. She was a real trojan when I was so sick and going through all my treatments. She managed to hold everything together and meet all the demands. But we have had such little reprieve from my illness... My last chemo was in mid-September, and now I have relapsed... I just don't know what to do or how to help her. I'm trying my best to make this easier on her - since I'm feeling well, I insist on going to the doctors by myself, I do the research on my own, etc. I just can't stop her worrying. And everything just seems to be deteriorating... My 17 year old brother has recently dropped out of school and he's drinking, overeating and refusing to help out because he figures "What's the point?". Who can blame the kid when he saw my father and I do everything "right" and both of us got cancer. I guess I just feel that I'm the catalyst of all the problems... I was thinking that I was finally at the age where I could begin to help my mother out and give her a break and, now, I'm simply a bigger burden. Any advice on how to help my family??? Caregivers, any tips on how to make my mom feel better?