Oct 30, 2003 - 1:53 pm
Hello my name is TJ. My wife has colorectal cancer. The doctor told us yesterday that she maybe has a year left. My wife and I don't beleive that that is it. We think that there has to be other options. I don't know what to do. A year ago she was having pains in her stomach, to make a long story short she had surgery to have a complete histarectomy and at that time they thought it was ovarian cancer....but it turned out to be colorectal cancer. She went through chemo and radiation and after a couple of months she was doing great...then they said she should get a PET test to see if the cancer was anywhere else in her body. After the test it came back negative everywhere else in the body except a faint trace in her rectum where her tumor is now. things looked good her tumor had shrunk to the point that they couldn't measure it and there wasn't a lump anymore. She was scheduled to have her chemo/blood port out yesterday but the oncologist decided to do a examine and he said he could still feel it and that they should do a test to look up there and take pictures to be on the safe side. The next thing we knew he was telling us that the tumor was still there...and bigger and that if she did't have a operation to have a colostomy bag put in then she would soon be blocked off. Well, to say the least I was devastated by the news...we have a four year old daughter and I just can't think of raising her without my wife. How do you tell a four year old who loves her mother that she only has a year left to spend with her?? I don't know what to do...any advice/help/info on what we could do next would be greatly appreciated...we have an appointment next week at the Lahey clinic..and have thought that if we didn't get anywhere there we would go to the Dana Farber cancer Institute. But what I really want to know is....does anyone ever survive this? I won't give up...ever...I just want to know can we beat this thing?? Well, any help would be great. Thanks alot.