Sep 19, 2003 - 12:38 am
About 2 weeks or so ago, my dad was diagnosed with Stage IV cancer that had already spread to his liver. He has 9 spots, some fairly large on his liver. The past several months, he's been working pretty hard, and although he showed some signs of fatigue, he still worked. The past month, he started taking daily naps and thought he might have depression. Finally when he went to his appointment, they told him he had cancer. Since then, he sleeps a lot. He complains about his liver hurting, and he just drags around. It's thrown the whole family into shock, and we've all been in disbelief that this has even happened. But, lately, my whole family is coming out of shock, and we are beginning to wonder if my dad has just given up. He says he hasn't. But, when he talks, you can hear it in his voice. It's like he's just pulled the covers up over his head and feels there is no use in fighting the cancer. The doctors have told him that he's incurable, and that he could live up to 5-8 years, but more than likely will only have a year to 18 months left. And while I'm sure the doctors know their stuff, I keep thinking that they can't know everything. I've checked out several inspirational books for him to read, but he hasn't really shown too much interest in them. And from the books I've read, a major component to beating this thing is to at least have hope you can and be willing to fight it. But, how can you get someone to fight if they don't want to? How long does it take for it to sink in and for you to realize you can't just roll over and let the cancer win? Should I be concerned about depression at this early stage, or should we give him a few more weeks before we talk to him about it?